Monday, May 3, 2010

淺談選擇


現今世界,多姿多彩。科技和文明的進步,給我們提供了無限的選擇。晚上回家打開電視﹐有幾百個臺任君選擇。走進超市﹐一種飲料有十幾種口味。買一個手機﹐有這麼多經銷商、這麼多包套、這麼多功能。選擇伴侶﹐再也沒有包辦婚姻;手長腿短、燕瘦環肥,任君選擇。

不可否認,選擇是好的﹐人們有自主權是好的。這樣,我們應該比過去更快樂﹐更滿足。人生應該更愉快、更充實﹐是嗎﹖

但是如果你身邊有這麼快樂的稀有動物﹐那就要介紹給我認識了。事實是﹐我們打開電視﹐按到肌腱作痛﹐也找不到自己想看的節目。走到超市﹐買了一大車東西出來以後﹐還是忘記本來要買的那卷衛生紙。剛買的手機﹐沒幾天就覺得不好用了。唯一比換手機還要快的﹐大概就是換女朋友的速度……

似乎選擇太多,反而會添煩惱。

當人們知道有其他選擇的時候﹐人們往往會對自己的選擇感到不滿意。相反﹐一旦人們知道自己沒有選擇﹐便會把自己的所有當作是最好的。某心理學家曾經做過一個心理實驗﹕他讓兩組人在兩張圖畫中選擇;A組是選了就不能換的﹐B組則是兩個星期以後還可以換。結論,不能換的A組在兩個星期後﹐都表示很喜歡自己選擇的圖畫﹔B組則有大部份人表示不滿意﹐要求要做調換。

很明顯,選擇越多﹐我們越想執行我們的選擇權﹐於是﹐互聯網變慢了﹐車子變小了﹐老婆變蠢了…… 明明一切都沒有變﹐是我們想選擇的欲望膨脹到不行了。

某個果醬品牌設計了24種口味﹐在超市推銷的首日,許多媒體和客戶出現﹐造成空前絕后的轟動。在人潮來看﹐這個活動絕對是成功的。但廠商卻發現﹐銷售量出奇的低。於是廠商這次把口味降到6種。人潮少了,但銷售量高了。這説明了什麼呢﹖那就是沒有選擇和過多選擇都是沒用的。重要的是﹐這選擇要剛好多又不會太多;多到讓人有選擇性﹐又不會多到令人失控。

一旦我們有這麼多選擇﹐花了這麼多時間﹐我們選擇的再也不是一個手機﹐而是一個萬能的手機;期待的再也不僅僅是一個普通的戀愛對象﹐而是一個美似環球小姐﹐慧似聖母瑪麗的完美伴侶。於是﹐期望越高﹐失望越大.

或者少就是多更多的選擇往往不會更好。研究指出,當一個人只有很少的選擇的時候,他的確會更高興,也會有更強烈的動機去作出較正確的選擇。

如果我們能夠作出正確的選擇,那麼幸福就在我們的手中。但是什麼才是正確的選擇呢?

想像一下:現在有兩份工作擺在你的面前,第一份是你覺得很有興趣的工作,年薪三萬;另外一份是很無聊的工作,但是年薪四萬。你的思想會作出鬥爭。試想兩份工作的其它條件都是相等的,你會選擇哪一份?

一般人會習慣性地更看重數字上的差別,而忽視到底那份工作是否有趣。因此,更多的人會選擇那份無聊的工作,即使那份工作讓他們覺得上班很痛苦。但是那多出來的一萬元並非小數,在任何時候都是用得著的。權衡輕重,人人都有不同的優先考顱,正確的選擇就因人而異了。

我們可以選擇做一隻狼,還是做一頭牛。狼的生活可以說是幸福的:牠們位居食物鏈的較上層,往往強勢出擊,大塊吃肉;其它動物,甚至人類都對牠們畏而遠之。然而狼的生活也是悲惨的:牠們昼伏夜出,少見光明;為了生存,常常要挑戰比自己大得多、更危險的對手。可以說牠們的生活處境並不安逸。

     牛則不同。牠們沉默寡言,辛勤勞作;吃的是草,擠出來的是奶;奶盡了,其肉還能供人下膳。在大家的意想當中,牠不求回報,只是付出,世間所有美好的想像都賦予了這样一个載体。正因爲如此,农家們对牛呵護有加,悉心照料。牠們可算是過著幸福的生活吧,但我們都明白牛的最後下場。
     
生活就是一連串的選擇;我們可以決定自己做什麼。做一隻只狼,還是一頭牛,答案就在我們每個人手中。但又有誰人真正知曉對錯呢?有時兩種選擇開始時似乎有天淵之別,其結果又如何?

忘記了從哪裏看過這樣的一個故事:

一個美國人在墨西哥一個海邊魚村的碼頭上漫步,看見一艘小船停泊在那裏,船上有幾條大黃鰭吞拿魚。美國人向那墨西哥船主大讚魚的品質,並問他花多久的時間捕到這些魚。

墨西哥漁夫回答:不一會兒的時間。

美國人:為何不在海上待久一點,捕更多的魚呢?

墨西哥人漁夫:這些魚已足夠家庭所需。

美國人:那你其它時間都在做些什麼?

漁夫:我睡到很晚,釣釣魚,陪孩子玩,和老婆睡個午覺,每晚到村裏喝點酒,跟                                                                                                     朋友彈彈吉他。每天都活得很忙很充實。

美國人:我是哈佛企管碩士,可以幫助你。你應該花更多時間捕魚,接著買艘大一點的船。然後買幾艘船,擁有一支捕魚的船隊。你不用賣魚給中間商,直接把魚賣給加工廠好了。到最後,擁有自己的罐頭工廠。從產品、加工廠,到行銷,完全自己掌控。你可以搬離這個海邊小漁村,到墨西哥市、洛杉磯,最後遷往紐約,在那裏擴張事業。

漁夫:但是,那要花多久的時間?

美國人:大概15年至20年。

漁夫:然後呢?

美國人:接著就是最好的了。如果時機好,你可以在股市挂牌,把公司股票賣給大眾,成為有錢人。你就是百萬富翁了!

漁夫:成為百萬富翁?!然後呢?

美國人:然後你就可以退休了。搬到一個小漁村,你可以睡到很晚,釣釣魚,跟孩子玩一玩,和老婆睡午覺,每晚溜到村裏喝點酒,跟朋友們玩玩吉他……

其實世上選擇多多,最終還是殊途同歸。人生是一段不斷選擇的結果;選擇自己想要, 成為自己想成為的,才是真正的人生。


A Few Words on Choices

Less May Be More

The world of today is truly diverse and colorful; and the advances in civilization and technologies bring us endless choices. Hundreds of television channels are there for you to pick every night when you come home from work. You may get baffled by the dozen plus flavors offered by a single drink at the supermarket. Want to buy a cell phone? You’ve got so many vendors, so many bundles and so many features to choose from. And arranged marriage is all but obsolete, so it’s your own business to be with someone of any size and shape.

No doubt about this: choice is good. With the right and freedom to choose, we are more content, and our lives are more fulfilling than ever. Right?

But let me know if you have such a rare happy species near you. The truth is that, turn on the TV, press the remote control until you develop Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, and you won’t find the program you really want. On your way out of the supermarket with a whole cartful of stuff, you realize that you forgot to pick up the toilet tissues that your wife sent you out for. That new cell phone that you just bought last week? It’s not very useful. Perhaps the only thing that you replace faster than your cell phone is your girlfriend…

It appears that too many choices cause more agonies instead.     

When people realize they have more options, they tend to feel dissatisfied with what they have picked. On the contrary, once they know they don’t, then they would stay with their choices. A psychologist performed this experiment: two control groups were told to choose one of two pictures. Subjects in group A were not allowed to change their minds; while those in group B could exchange their pictures in two weeks. The result revealed that all subjects in group A were very happy with their choices after two weeks; while most of those in group B expressed their dissatisfaction and requested a trade.

Apparently, the more options there are, the more we want to exercise our right to choose. Therefore, the Internet slows down, our cars look smaller, and our wives seem dimmer… Nothing has actually changed in anyway; it’s our desire for choices that is inflating out of control.

A fruit jams brand had designed twenty-four flavors. On the day of its supermarket debut, it drew a record number of media and potential buyers. Based on the size of the crowd, this promotion was an absolute success. However the manufacturer later found out that the sale number was peculiarly poor. After it reduced the number of flavors to six, less people came visit, but sales increased. What does this mean? It’s that neither zero choice nor too much of it is beneficial. The key is to provide an appropriate amount of options that allow people to choose and not get overwhelmed.

Once we have so many choices, and spend so much time to decide, what we pick is no longer a “cell phone”; it must be a “do-all smart phone”. We no longer expect an ordinary date; she’s got to be a perfect partner with the look of a Miss Universe and the virtues of Virgin Mary. Hence higher expectations bring greater disappointments.

Perhaps “less is more”; too many choices often do you no good. Studies indicate that when someone is left with fewer options, he is indeed happier, and more motivated to make the better choices.

If we are able to make the right decisions, then we can steer our lives toward happiness. But what is a right pick?

Imagine this: there are two job offers laid in front of you. The first one is very interesting to you and pays $30,000 annually; and the other is a bore but lets you pocket $40,000 a year. Now you have a struggle in you head. All other conditions being equal, which one would you pick?

People in general habitually emphasize on the difference in the dollar amounts, and neglect to consider the merit factor of the jobs. So more people would choose the boring job, even though it could be painful for them to go to work. However, that extra ten grand is no chump change by any standards; you can use it anytime. We all have different priorities and needs to contend with; therefore one choice does not fit all.  

We can choose to be a wolf, or a cow. It can be said that wolves are leading a happy life: they occupy a higher place in the food chain, usually attack with great force and dine with big chunks of meat. Most other animals, and even humans would keep away from them with fear. But their life is sad at the same time: they only come out and hunt in the darkness of night; and for survival they often must take on much larger and more dangerous opponents. They don’t live in peace. 

Cows are different. They don’t complain, and just work. Let them eat grass and you get milk, or beef for dinner. In people’s mind, they only give and ask for nothing in return; all the noble visions and beliefs of the world are carried in these creatures. For this reason, farmers take good care of their cattle. You can argue cows have a happy life, but we all know how it ends.

Life consists of a series of choices; we can decide what to do. To be a wolf or a cow, the answer to that is yours. But who really knows right from wrong? Sometimes two choices seem to head opposite directions at first. And the end result?

There is a story that I had read somewhere:

An American was taking a stroll on the pier at a Mexican seaside village and spotted a boat parked there. Several large yellow-fin tunas were left on the deck. The Yankee praised the quality of the fish and asked the boat owner how long it took for him to catch them.

The Mexican fisherman answered: Not too long.

The American: Why not stay on the sea a little longer and catch more?

Mexican fisherman: These fish are enough to provide for the family.

American: So what do you do the rest the day?

Fisherman: I sleep late, then fish a little, play with the kids for a while, and take a nap with my wife; every evening I’d go to the bar for a drink, and play guitar with some friends. My days are pretty happy and occupied.

American: I am a Harvard MBA, and can help you. You should spend more time fishing, and then buy a bigger boat. After this buy several more, so you can own a fishing fleet. You don’t have to sell your fish to a middleman; sell them to the processing plant directly. Finally get your own cannery, so you can control the whole business from fishing, processing to sale. You’ll then be able to move out of this tiny village, to Mexico City, or Los Angeles, and finally New York, where you can expand your business.

Fisherman: But sir, how long will it take?

American: About 10 to 15 years.

Fisherman: And then?

American: And then comes the best. If timing is good, you can take your company public, and sell its stock at the stock exchanges. Then you’ll be rich, and become a millionaire.

Fisherman: Become a millionaire?! Then what?

American: Then you can retire and move to a seaside village. There you can sleep late, do some fishing, play with your kids a little bit, and take a nap with your wife. In the evening you can go to the bar for a drink, and play guitar with your friends…

Indeed, the many choices that we have in this world may somehow end up achieving the same thing. Life is also a result of never-ending choices. Follow your dream and be what you wish to be; then you will live a true life. 

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

When You Get That Tax Refund


What to Do with the Money Is not the First Thing You Should Think About

Ah, it’s springtime. The feet-high snow has melted; and the tree pollens are starting to tickle people’s noses. Another sign of spring: tax fund money is trickling out of Uncle Sam’s fat wallet back into we commoners’ pockets. The average federal tax refund, according to Money magazine, amounts to around $2,700 last year. For many, this is probably the largest chunk of dough outside of their paycheck that they will get their hands on all year. With the economic stimulus and other credit programs enacted by the Obama administration last year, this chunk is expected to get even bigger.
If you are one of the lucky who gets to receive a sizable refund, after congratulating yourself, you will ponder what to do with it. Gone are the days when people take this opportunity to indulge themselves with hot vacations, cool gadgets or shiny new cars. The past year’s economic and financial turmoil has brought no small degree of frugality back in this society; and people are clearly and rightfully more cautious with what they have.
So it all comes down to this good old question: what to do when you get a nice tax refund from the IRS? Here are a few pointers:
Adjust your W-4 form. Everyone seems to have some good ideas about how to spend their tax refund, and what to do first will vary among individuals. However, I believe the first thing you should do when you receive, or expect to get a significant amount of refund is not what to do with it, but to figure out why you would have to get a big refund in the first place. All things being equal, chances are that you had claimed too few exemptions and therefore let the IRS withhold too much from your payroll. Uncle Sam has gotten a free loan here. To correct this, contact your payroll department and ask to file a new W-4 form. Not sure about how much withholding is appropriate? Go to IRS.gov and use the withholding calculator to get specific instructions for filling out new W-4’s. You should see an increase in your take-home money soon after your payroll department makes the adjustment. It’s like getting a raise. Who wouldn’t like to have a little more money tucked in the wallet these days?
Pay off as much high-interest debt as possible. Of course you are not going to fret over getting a big refund, despite knowing that Uncle Sam had taken you for a free ride. Now it’s time to take care of yourself and get some burden off your back. Having a debt balance is like helping someone else to make millions with no returns for yourself. The 18 to 20 percent interest rates that credit card companies typically charge on balances are especially raw deals. To make this matter worse, many credit card companies have boosted interest rates in anticipation of the new credit card law; so carrying a balance now costs you even more. Pay it off, or at least pare it down first. Then take a good look at your mortgage, and if you can put the money toward the principal and not the interest for greater savings. Pay off a balance with an 18 percent interest rate is just like earning 18 percent on your money. Now this is an incredible Warren Buffet – class investment return with zero risk.
Build or rebuild your emergency fund. If the turbulent experience in the past couple of years had taught us anything, that would be the importance of having an emergency fund to fall back on. People lost jobs overnight; 401k’s became 101K’s; and college tuition bills were on the way. Keeping three to six months’ worth of expected expenses squirreled away in highly secure places could ease the pain. The money you put in the emergency fund must be very liquid; and the investment must be nearly risk-free. That leaves you not many choices but to stick with boring vehicles such as insured savings accounts, short-term CD’s, or high-quality money market funds. They pay puny yields - from no more than 2% (short-term CD’s) to almost nothing (savings accounts), but at least can help you sleep well at night. Remember, this is an emergency fund, which will provide you with some legroom and cushion if another crash is heading your way.
Boost your retirement savings. The meltdown of the financial market place has scared away many; you shouldn’t be one of them. In fact, with the markets having been way down and still in recovery mode, this is a good time to participate in the rally. Assuming that you have stopped giving Uncle Sam a free ride, made a serious dent in your debt, and built up a comfortable emergency fund, why not add more nest eggs for your golden years? For 2009, you have until April 15, 2010 to contribute up to $5,000 to an IRA (or $6,000 if you are age 50 and over). You can even contribute to a Roth IRA if your modified adjusted gross income is no more than $120,000 (for single tax filers) or $176,000 (for married couples filing jointly). You can only invest after-tax money in a Roth IRA, but its tax-free withdrawal feature makes it my favorite retirement savings vehicle outside of 401K.
Establish or improve college savings. Have had all the above bases covered? Kudos to you! Now maybe you’ll be able to lend a helping hand for your children’s future. Most people will cringe when they think about the ever-rising costs of putting their kids through college. So start savings early, and take advantage of a couple of excellent investment vehicles where your money can grow tax-free. Right now, you can contribute up to $2,000 a year to a Coverdell Education Savings Account. But I prefer the larger and more flexible 529 plans, which are now offered by every single state. You may cross state lines to find a 529 plan and put in over $300,000 per beneficiary. You can use the money at least federal tax-free for college tuition and related costs. The website http://www.savingforcollege.com has a full alley of useful information on college savings.
There is a lot more to do when you receive a nice chunk of tax refund money. Since every penny counts, make sure every penny is counted for.

How to Deal With Tax Refund | eHow.com

How to Deal With Tax Refund | eHow.com

Friday, March 12, 2010

The Happiest Thing in Life

My 12-Year Old Knows It Best


This is the topic for my second son, Dusty’s Chinese school speech contest this year. I scratched my head when I saw it. What is he going to choose? How is he going to describe that? In his 12-year old mind, I would expect perhaps something like a Star Wars Death Star Lego Set that had asked Santa for long ago, the latest game software for his Nintendo DS that his friend showed him, or even acing all his tests and winning nothing but praises from his parents…

Even for us grown-ups, this is one that is hard to pin down. First true love? Great family? Successful career? Good health? Survey one hundred people, and you probably receive eighty-nine answers.

I was intrigued when I read the beginning of Dusty’s speech: “The happiest thing in life is when you know you are growing up.” Then it dawned on me: How true!

Whatever makes you happy, and whatever you value and treasure at the moment may be simply a fluke, or is merely a sliver of life. And life is about growing up.

When you are first born, exhausted from just completing such a long and sometimes painful project, your parents can finally exhale and congratulate themselves: this is the happiest thing in life. For you, knowing nothing but hunger at this point, having a nipple in you mouth would just do.

Then you have your first smiles, followed by your first hand gestures, your first words, and your first steps. Your Mama and Papa are so excited about those milestones and want to record them all; and you gladly comply, looking so cute on camera. They are so proud of you. Now you all have a new happiest thing in life.

Soon you would make another major step forward and are going to school. You might feel a bit overwhelmed at first, but joy and excitement would eventually take over. Your parents are just like you, happy as ever, because everyone realizes that you are growing up.

Amid the English teacher’s monotone lectures and that hated big-shot jock’s bullying, do you realize that your eyes are always following that freckle-faced skinny girl who only wears blue? Your heart races and your palms get wet when she is within ten feet. Then she starts talking to you; she lends you her powder-blue calculator; and she always smiles when she sees you. Oh, you are in heaven, for you know you are no longer a little kid.

With the SAT faded in the past, you’ve just moved in the dorm room at the college in your top five list. After unloading the dozen or so bags and boxes, your dad pats you on the back and your mom weeps. You can barely contain your own smile though it’s for an entirely different reason. Nonetheless all three of you are feeling the greatest now that you are coming ever closer to adulthood.
Four years’ partying and all-nighters are history; you’ve earned your cap and gown. Your internship last summer went well; and you’ve just signed off the offer sheet from an S & P 500 corporation. Your career path is set; and you are at the doorstep of independence. You are a grown man! Are you thinking this is the best thing in life? You bet ya!

Life goes on .You enter different stage of your life, meet more difficult challenges and achieve higher goals. Every time you have a success, you bring yourself up to a higher level. You inevitably have setbacks, but you know you will have another crack at it tomorrow and can eventually succeed. Then you realize you’ve grown again. What makes you happier than seeing yourself getting better?

Dusty is right: The happiest thing in life is when you know you are growing up.J

Friday, February 5, 2010

How to Be Happy and Healthy


No Medicine Needed

The latest data suggest that 73% of the U.S. population is overweight or obese, while 10% of the same people suffer from depression. This should not come as a surprise. Decades of prosperity in this country have led people to consider extreme excess as the norm. On the other hand, the latest financial and economical condition and job market haven’t been making people happy. 

While we as individuals cannot single-handedly reverse these negative trends, a few simple adjustments can help make a difference.



  • Eat right. We don’t have to be a vegan or join Weight Watchers to stay fit and feel better, but common sense should prevail. If your in-take is larger than your out-lay, the math is simple and you will gain weight. I, for one, will be the last one who looks at the food label and counts the calories every time I eat, but when SPAM is on sale, I would pick the turkey or “light” version instead of the “original”. In addition, I don’t consider a meal complete without veggies.



  • Exercise. Modern technologies and life style make it almost impossible to balance our energy in-take and out-lay. Let’s face it; we love to eat, whether we need to or not, which makes us happy. Exercise can come in and help burn off the extra calories taken in. It can also make us healthier and more energetic, which in turn makes us happier, too.



  • Communicate. Whatever bothering you, let people know. The worst thing to do is to sweep the problem under the rug and keep the feelings in your chest. Do it a couple of times and you will explode. People around you will get affected negatively, too. Talk about it, and you will surely get support and help from those who care. When a problem is resolved, everyone is happy.



  • Enjoy what you do. Embrace your job, be it the President or a grade school janitor, and remind yourself that not everyone can do it. When you’ve got to do what’ve got to do, might as well enjoy it. But if you really can’t bring yourself to even come close to liking it, it’s time to find something you desire. Never let yourself  “go postal”; it’s not good for anyone.



  • Love yourself. Movies stars are glamorous; and the athletes are popular. But you are who you are. You are born for a good reason, and have your own good value to your loved ones and the society. More often than not, a simple life is a happier one. Life is too short to take yourself too seriously.



  • Appreciate life. You want to live, don’t you? So many people can’t have what we take for granted every day. In Middle East, in Africa, and most recently, in Haiti, thousands have lost their lives. We can only have one life. Let’s take good care of it.

Happiness and health go hand in hand. Good health leads to happiness; and happiness helps improve your health. Possess both and you will have a good life.

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Friday, January 29, 2010

On Google’s Threatened Pull-out from China

Clever Move, Clumsy Cover

Anything about Google is huge; and anything about China is gigantic. So when these two titans butt heads, we’ve got really big news. And controversy is the key word when people describe their relationship. There is no difference this time.

Earlier this month U.S. Internet search leader Google announced a threat that it is going to quit all its operations in China after suffering what it called a “sophisticated cyber attack”. It is hardly hiding its contention that the Chinese government was behind the attack.

Just as expected, and almost seemed pre-rehearsed, a chorus of criticism arose from both sides of the pond. The westerners, from the media in London to the government officials in Washington, came out and firmly stood behind Google.

China, of course, with its history and reputation of restrictions and censorship, is the bad guy in this drama. Google, on the other hand, is the glowing hero, willing to sacrifice its profitable business in the biggest market of the world so our high moral standard and basic human rights can be defended.

The hero beating back the evil, for the matter of principle. It’s a good show.

Funny thing is, despite all the grandstanding, few actually believe the story. And almost everyone knows that this is another one of those shrewd business moves that Google routinely churns out.

Ever since Google entered the Chinese market five years ago, China has been regulating the Internet the some way it supervises other media outlets, “in accordance with the country’s relevant laws.” So, since 2006, Chinese users who search “Tiananmen Square massacre” or “Dalai Lama” would come up empty.

Google knew from the get-go that Beijing was in the business of control and censorship, yet this “human-rights superhero” decided to enter the game anyway. It was telling the world that the mere presence of Google would help open up the communication channels and get information to the Chinese people true and free. Dancing with the wolves for five years, Google ought to look like a noble crusader.

But why is it getting out now? Google has invested billions in China, but with only $600 million annual revenue to show for it. What’s more embarrassing for Google is its sliding market share (down to 14 percent) there. Clearly it has been beat soundly by its Chinese rival, Baidu, which possesses around eighty percent of the market share in China. Other foreign ventures such yahoo and eBay are facing the same fate when competing with domestic rivals. But for the all-mighty Google, which has been coming out on top in pretty much everything it touches, simply admitting defeat and being sent packing is too much of a humiliation. It’s all about face.

However the cover Google uses for its retreat is less than convincing.

For the past few months, the Chinese government has launched a new across-the-board campaign against on-line pornography and violence.

“Ah ha, more censorship!” Google jumps, “we can’t take it any more! We are leaving; just teach those commies a lesson!”

Come on! Google did not make a blip when those Tiananmen Square images were blocked; it readily complied when the Chinese government demanded the information on the dissidents. And it threats to leave because they are cracking down on porn and violence?

Google boasts a motto of “Don't be evil”; fare enough. But what’s evil here? Porn and violence, they are tops in the evil list in the eastern cultures, and therefore should be rightfully censored by the Chinese people in their own country.

If Google truly wants to act as guardian of human rights and freedom of speech, it should not flee now. Instead, it must stay in the trenches and keep fighting. Otherwise, stop using such a flimsy cover for the sake of saving face.

Google knows its business; it is in China for the big money. If it’s eventually leaving, that’s because its business there has not turned out to be as lucrative. This would be a good business move. And blaming censorship? Now that is a clumsy cover.

Friday, January 15, 2010

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Let’s Be Honest


Cheating Gets You Nowhere

“Have you ever thought about leaving a legacy and how you will be remembered when the present becomes the past? Does the achievement of our goals for success in life matter more than the manner in which that success is achieved? There’s no question that we all set out to be successful at whatever life has in store, but at what expense? Does it really matter if we might have to be a little dishonest at times or if we have cheated a tiny bit to get ahead?  Would it be different if that’s what it took just to keep up?”

So starts the principal’s editorial in the latest issue of my son’s high school newsletter. There is no “How time flies”, no “Congratulations”, no “Thank you so and so”, or any other routine pleasantry. This is serious, stern scolding.

This came as a shock to me. Ever since the information session, I have been convinced that besides academic excellence, this school also emphasizes on integrity and trust. It even practices “open-locker” policy. Walking through the hallway, you can see that all the lockers are indeed unlocked, and no one seems to worry if his stuff is exposed in plain view. Students who managed to make it to this place are expected to excel, not just “stay in school”. So when the principal speaks like this, something must be up.

It turned out, some students managed to take advantage of the class schedule and cheated in a small quiz, which after it was discovered, prompted the principal to ask: “Is it worth it?”

The question may not be as simple as it seems. In an ideal world, everyone gives his best efforts and gets the results he deserves. You go far because you work hard; you lag behind because you might have slacked off. Everything is fair and square. And honesty is a virtue.

However, the world we live in is not, and never will be perfect. Success is not measured by efforts, but by results. You can still achieve these results with hard work and smarts, plus some luck. Of course, there is no guarantee that your work will pay off. Mix money, fame, social status, and a dash of greed, and you’ve got yourself a recipe for dishonesty – let’s cheat a little, it’s harmless, and it may work out great!

We have seen certain professional athletes, with necks thicker than many people’s thighs, belting baseballs out of the park day after day, and therefore receiving fat contracts, big commercial endorsements, and apparently secure Hall of Fame berths. However, it is no secret that their curiously superb performances have mostly been the result of banned substances.

We have also witnessed the incredible rise of Enron and WorldCom. Until the early 1990’s, they were still little known also-runs stumbling for direction. By using some “smart” tactics to hide losses and inflate earnings, in a matter of a few years they vaulted themselves to the top, and quickly became the Wall Street darlings at the turn of the twenty-first century. The top executives, of course, were perceived as business geniuses and great visionaries, while their pockets swelled with filthy wealth.
 
They had achieved what they considered success by deceit. But is it worth it?

Well, after the most recent doping scandals broke, facts found from various investigations clearly implicated those athletes. Some of the apparent future Hall of Famers were actually forced to testify at congressional hearings, in front of national television. They have become the butt of jokes on late night talk shows, and are being called all sorts of names for a cheater. No matter how hard they try to deny the allegations, whatever records they had previously set will forever carry an asterisk and a footnote next to them. They have disgraced themselves and may even have to face certain health risks down the road.

And we all know the fate of Enron and WorldCom. They became even more famous when it was revealed that the mind-boggling “success” that they had had been sustained mainly by systematic and well-planned accounting fraud. These once high-flying companies have since crashed and landed in bankruptcy, bringing along with them tens of thousands of their employees and investors. As for their top executives, the former head of WorldCom has been sentenced to twenty-five years in prison, while those who had run and ruined
Enron are still on trial, possibly facing a similar fate.

Going back to the high school case, the students cheated just to pass one small quiz. There was no harm done, right? It happens everywhere these days anyway, so what’s the difference whether I cheat or not? The truth is, everyone would agree that character building starts young. You could cheat at home just to get an extra piece of chocolate; you might cheat at school just to pass an exam; and you will probably cheat at work for a promotion. Then what? You see the trend, and you see what’s coming. Honesty is a virtue, and dishonesty carries consequences. Those cheating students have seen their “good” scores erased, and more importantly, they will never be regarded the same way again.

So why cheat? Isn’t it better that we are all just a little more honest? 

By the way, among those who were found cheating in that quiz, some of them had been scheduled to be inducted into the National Honor Society. Well, not any more.

Who’s Afraid of The Big Bad Swine?

Originally Written 5/29/09

Swine don’t have a good reputation. They are called all kinds of names: stupid, dirty, lazy or ugly, etc., depending on the occasion. No body wants to be called a pig. Now they are even accused of spreading a deadly disease, the so-called swine flu – they simply don’t get a break.

Let’s see some of the stuff that we are hearing about this swine flu.

This strain of novel influenza A (H1N1) first broke out in Mexico in April 2009. Some earlier reports had it that there were over 3,000 people ill with the disease and 83 people had died of it. Emergency measures had been announced by the president there.

Across the globe, figures from the World Health Organization (WHO) show that forty-six countries have confirmed 12,950 cases, including 96 deaths, according to the latest tally, and authorities say many more may have been sickened.
 
Eighteen European countries have confirmed 349 cases, a third of whom were probably infected in their home country. The U.K. and Spain have the most reported cases, with 133 each.

Japan has the most cases outside North America. Swine flu has hit the most populous urban area on earth when two schoolgirls in Tokyo tested positive for the disease as Japan's national total reached 345, reports and officials said.

China reported cases recently in Shanghai and the eastern province of Zhejiang, taking its tally of confirmed infections to 12. Taiwan confirmed the island’s first domestically transmitted case and reported two imported infections, giving it nine. South Korea confirmed 12 more cases, bringing its total to 22.

Closer to home, The United States now has over 6,000 probable and confirmed case of swine flu. New York has recently recorded its first death from swine flu - the sixth fatality overall in the US as an assistant school principal passed away a week after becoming ill in mid-May.

The news is definitely not good, and reports by the big media are overwhelmingly negative.

In the face of what they consider clear and apparent danger, the human’s natural defensive mechanism quickly kicks in, as evidenced by the walk-through thermal scans installed at international airports, the needless school closings, and of course, the TV images of those silly surgical masks on thousands of people’s faces.

“Better safe than sorry,” they say.

Fear has even made some people turn hostile against others. In China, a blog posting reporting a swine flu case brought by an overseas student who recently returned home from Canada stirred up nearly three thousand angry replies.

“Everybody is anxious now, what are they running around for?” One lamented, “Isn’t it nice enough out there? Why come back in this dangerous time and put us in danger?!”

“Those spoiled brats,” Another barked, “got nothing better to do but harm their own folks!”

The Vivid memory of past years’ truly deadly global epidemics such as SARS and the “Spanish flu” certainly weight heavily on people’s mind, so I can understand how they tend to get nervous right away when something with such a strange name comes along. As a result, you see canceled flights, schools closed due to a five percent absence rate, and over-crowded hospital emergency departments that have to set up tents outdoors to accommodate anxious patients with the first hint of a flu-like symptom.

The big media is not helping the case with frightening headline news that feeds into the frenzy. What we see when we turn on the news is often a serious looking reporter holding a microphone, standing in front of some supposed infected building and telling us the deadly virus epidemic shows no signs of slowing down, but we don’t have vaccines for the swine flu, and some baby had a fever, turned blue and die in the emergency room...


Little mentioned is that despite the fact that this strain of flu is new to human and thus most people will not have immunity to it, it is relatively mild and treatable even compared to some normal seasonal flues. And we won’t hear that every year, influenza circles the global and kills an estimated 250,000-500,000 people. In an average year, 36,000 of those people live in the United States — a country that spends more on health care than any other country. Compared to this, the number of swine flu cases that we are having now doesn’t seem overwhelming.

Besides, only less than half of reported new swine flu cases are eventually confirmed. Most of the swine flu deaths had underlying health ailments. And that sixteen months old boy that was rushed to the hospital did not die of the swine flu after all. If you were not paying attention, you would have missed this little bit of the news.

Medical terms are Greek to me, and I certainly don’t have adequate knowledge to give advice on this issue.

But I reckon since it is flu, shouldn’t we just treat it like what it is, with common sense?

I happened to come across this from the CDC website about how to take everyday actions to stay healthy, which our mothers probably have been telling us since forever:
  • Cover your nose and mouth with a tissue when you cough or sneeze. Throw the tissue in the trash after you use it.
  • Wash your hands often with soap and water, especially after you cough or sneeze. Alcohol-based hands cleaners are also effective.
  • Avoid touching your eyes, nose or mouth. Germs spread that way.
  • Stay home if you get sick. CDC recommends that you stay home from work or school and limit contact with others to keep from infecting them.
Of course, swine, like other seasonal flues, is nothing to sneeze at. It is not going away and still spreading around the world. With the summer travel season approaching fast, we surely will not stop hearing about this big bad swine any time soon.

The good news is that progress has been made towards developing a viable H1N1 swine flu vaccine, with experts at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention saying the week leading to the Memorial weekend that they have two promising candidate viruses for use in such a shot.

This swine may turn out to be big, and certainly bad, but do we really want to live a sorry fearful life in the name of being “safe”? Apparently many people don’t think so, as airlines are flying out of Mexico again; more schools are reopened; and friends are still shaking hands. Perhaps we can all sing:

“Who’s afraid of the big bad swine?”


Something about Friendship

Friendship Is Special

How do you describe friendship? It’s not easy, is it? They say the Eskimos have a hundred words for snow. I am sure we have quite a variety of words in English, or Chinese, for friendship, too, but we are usually stuck with just a few, like good friends, trusted friends, best friends, or intimate friends, etc.
           
Friends are special people. They don’t have to be the same, and a few similarities or a little bit of common interest are good enough to make a couple of fast friends. They are not worried about being judged. They feel good when they meet. They argue, they fight, but in the end, they are there for each other when it counts.

It sounds a lot like family, and it’s justifiably so – don’t you often have the feeling of family when you are amongst your good friends? On the other hand, it’s sad but true: in many cases, you can’t even consider some of your family members your friends! That’s probably why some people talk to their friends about things that they would otherwise keep secret from their own families. And that’s definitely why a true friendship will last a lifetime – consider this: less than half of American marriages can last that long!
          
I recently came across some interesting writing about friendship on the Internet (www.friendship.com.au) that I would like to share with you:             
             
The Beauties of Friendship by Samuel Francis Wooland.
"A Friend" - The first person who comes in when the whole world has gone out.
A bank or credit on which we can draw supplies of confidence, counsel, sympathy, help and love.
One who combines for you alike the pleasures and benefits of society and solitude.
A jewel whose luster the strong acids of poverty and misfortune cannot dim.
One who multiplies joys, divides grieves, and whose honesty is inviolable.
One who loves the truth and you, and will tell the truth in spite of you.
The triple alliance of the three great powers, Love, Sympathy, and Help.
A watch which beats true for all time, and never "runs down."
A permanent fortification when one's affairs are in a state of siege.
One who to himself is true, and therefore must be so to you.
A balancing pole to him who walks across the tight rope of life.
The link in life's long chain that bears the greatest strain.
A harbor of refuge from the stormy waves of adversity.
One who considers my need before my deserving.
The jewel that shines brightest in the darkness.
A stimulant to the nobler side of our nature.
A star of hope in the clouds of adversity.
A diamond in the ring of acquaintance.
A volume of sympathy bond in cloth.
Friendship-one soul in two bodies.
An insurance against misanthropy.
One truer to me than I am myself.
One who understands our silence.
A link of gold in the chain of life.
The essence of pure devotion.
The sunshine of calamity.
A second right hand.
          
Friendship is beautiful, and I can’t say it any better. That “One more friend means one more way”, as the Chinese people would tell you, couldn’t be more true.

Now, let’s all go make some friends.

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Merrier Deaths in 2010?


They Are Tax Free, at Least!

No body is happy when a loved one dies. This is human nature. A loss of life always brings sadness and sorrow. What makes deaths more unbearable in this nation is that it’s going be taxed, heavily for some by our dear Uncle Sam. I am talking about the federal “estate tax” here. You not only lose a loved one, but also may be forced to watch a chunk of your rightful assets being taken away lawfully. This dreadfully nicknamed “death tax” is downright awful.

But things are not all bad lately. The federal estate tax expired January 1, 2010, after Congress failed in 2009 to agree on how large a deceased person’s estate must be taxed, and at what rate. This means for the first time since the late 1800’s, U.S. citizens will be able to live without having to pay for someone’s death when they are lucky enough to inherit a sizable estate from the deceased.

The repeal of the estate tax was originally announced back in 2001 as part of a broader reform, which lowered the top tax rate on estates over $1.5 millions to 45% from 55% and increased the exemption from a paltry $675,000 to a high of $3.5millions in 2009.

We already had almost a decade worth of good run in this aspect. Of course, the U.S. government will ultimately act to reinstate the estate tax, in light of the current economical and financial downturn, as well as astronomical budget deficits.

In fact, this process was already under way late last year when the U.S. House of Representatives approved a bill that would have permanently extended the $3.5 millions exemption and kept the top rate at 45%. But the bill failed to win support in the U.S. Senate as many senators from both parties favored increasing the exemption to $5 millions.
 
The result of this disagreement between the House and the Senate is that, at least for now, there is no U.S. estate tax for deaths in 2010. Since U.S. estate tax returns are not due until nine months following the date of death, the U.S. government essentially has until the end of September to reinstate the tax before the first returns become due.

This free lunch will not last, however. In 2011, the “death tax” is set to come roaring back at full force, with a top rate of 55% and an exemption of only $1 million, if our hard-working congress cannot agree on something better by then. So, this one-year absence of any estate tax, followed by a likely restoration of a huge one, may provoke some interesting thoughts.

The fortunes of the super-rich are secure, shielded from the Uncle Sam by armies of tax lawyers and accounts. However, the middle class, especially those who have done the right things all along: work, prudence and savings, etc. will be punished once again when this year is over. So undeniably this death tax-free 2010 seems like a godsend to many.

But is this a tax break to die for?

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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Life Is Sweet, If You Let It Be

In this world, who doesn’t like a little bit of sweets? To get a smile out of a crying child, nothing beats a piece of candy; to celebrate a birthday, you can’t be without a cake; and you would just feel like a nice sweet desert after a good meal…

But life is nothing like going to a restaurant, where you can order your favorite dishes anytime. Any elements of life, good or bad, always seem to pay you a visit at the most unexpected and inconvenient moment.

Remember why you decided to move to New Jersey? The six thousand square feet Mac Mansion, the tree-lined neighborhood, the crime rate, plus the top-notched schools – oh, how sweet it is!

Then comes the next Monday morning. You have to climb out of bed in the freezing cold, and in the pre-dawn darkness stumble your way to the Holland Tunnel when you hear on the radio that there is a sixty-minute delay… “Why am I doing this?!” You want to pull your hair out.

You finally make your way to the office, brew a nice cup of tea, settle down and try to make up for lost time when an announcement pops up from your e-mail: “John Smith has been promoted as the director of the department.” Who’s this John? A mediocre guy who does nothing all day, and a kisser-upper who takes credit for other people’s work. And he’s got what he didn’t earn! On the other hand, you always keep your head down, put all your honest efforts into your work, but never get your boss’s recognition and colleagues’ appreciation…

Wearing an awkward fake smile, you congratulate John, and you know your day is ruined. But you must collect yourself, and stay there until it’s the “appropriate” time to leave. Right now, you are just plain bitter.

The bitter taste is still in your mouth when you pull into your driveway. You grumble about how unfair God is. Just then, your front door swings open, and your babbling baby wobbles toward you, followed by your beloved wife with the most beautiful smile… Right then and there, what bitterness, do you still remember?

During your lifetime, there are too many events that rob you of your happiness and bring you pain and misery. In your childhood, you’d complained that your parents were too tough on you. Going to school, you just couldn’t stand the fact that this skinny little girl sitting next to you always beat you on tests. Now that you’ve got your dream job, but that curly-hair guy has a bigger office… Even in your “home sweet home”, can you really expect a honeymoon everyday?

Since no one can actually control or predict what’s happening in life, why not just open your heart and embrace it? As a matter of fact, the one who can make you unhappy is most likely yourself. Thus in order to start enjoying life, you’ve got to begin with yourself. Your parents were strict? They just wanted you to be successful. Failed to be the top dog at school? That’s just the motivation for you to try harder. The other guy’s grass is greener? Try to remember what you have accomplished… Inevitably you have fights with your wife, but what had brought you together as a couple was fate, and that’s what you should truly treasure.

Life is full of good times as well as hardships, which may not be a bad thing. Only after having experienced all those elements can you taste how sweet happiness is. And it’s those elements that make life so rich and vivid.


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So, I Got Busted

Falling into A Speed Trap and Fighting A Traffic Ticket


“Dad, I don’t think I should drive;” my eldest son, Bryant, handed the car key back to me, “my neck’s killing me – I’ve probably slept on it the wrong way.”

It was early Labor Day morning. Bryant, a senior at NYU Stern, had come home the day before to pick up a few items that he left behind when he moved back in his dorm for the new school year. Always a loving mom, my wife kindly volunteered my service to give him a ride instead of letting him take the bus.

No problem. With a trace of chill in the air, the fall season had gotten off a beautiful start: the sky was so clear that it didn’t even look it was there; and the still-rising sun brushed everything on Earth with a touch of gold. That’s what I call great driving weather!

Sailing through Route 9, we reached the Parkway in half of the usual time. There were few souls on the road. No body would go to work on Labor Days; and many were probably still recovering from their hangovers, anyway. I wouldn’t be on the road this early had my very sociable son not decided to meet a few friends of his for lunch in the city.

Nothing was happening. The Altima was effortlessly gliding on the roadway, pleasantly humming and occasionally passing a few “slow” cars from the left lane. It was just too comfortable. Pretty soon Bryant started snoring in the passenger seat. Obviously he didn’t sleep enough the night before.

My mind started to wander. “This is quick, and I’m going to be there in no time. The Labor Day is young. Hmm, maybe I should go to Chinatown to pick up something delicious to bring home for lunch… That’s it!”
I got a little excited with this idea and my right foot just got a bit infusion of life. The car gladly complied and woke up from its sleepy hum. Perhaps I hung in the left lane a tad too long, but still nothing was happening.
Until a police car sitting on the center divider jumped into sight.

“What, I’m here already?” Like many New Jersey commuters, I am aware of this stretch of the Parkway where the speed limit drops abruptly from 65 to 55 and therefore creates an infamous speed trap for countless innocent motorist who simply drive fast.

But I was still caught off guard as my mind had been wandering. Then practiced instinct kicked in, and I took my foot off the pedal, signaled, eased into the next lane on the right, and followed the traffic as the car rolled past the state trooper.

The police car didn’t move. Good sign! Now it was in the rear view mirror, and it came out! No flashing lights? Maybe the guy’s just going somewhere else. Keep going! Oh, no, he just cut right behind me. Still no flashing lights. Stay calm! He’s probably just going to the next exit.

Then those lights on the roof of the cop car started spinning. “So, I got busted!” I resigned and reluctantly steered the car toward the right shoulder, found a nice patch of grass and stopped, hoping for a just a simple scolding and warning, given my clean driving record.

“What happened?” Bryant was oblivious as he was rubbing off the sand in his eyes. Some knocks on his window caused him to jump.

A square-faced young trooper towered over the passenger side. “License, registration and insurance!” The fellow was not a talkative type; he grabbed my papers and quickly stepped back to his squad car. Obviously, he really enjoys his authority. “Your were going 83 in the 55 mile-per-hour zone.” These words he left behind chilled the air further.

I totally did not agree with him, but I absolutely understood that I must not exit the vehicle in this situation. So I had no way to argue, to attempt to bring his attention to my clean record, or simply ask for leniency before he put anything down on paper. Like meat on the chopping block, I could only sit there and wait, with my son, to whom I was supposed to be the role model.

After what felt like two years, the trooper strutted back, again to the passenger side window and handed back what I had just surrendered, plus that dreaded piece of cardboard paper. “There is information on the back for you to pay online or call the court to resolve the summons.” Now he talked.

Well, there was nothing I could do now. When I looked up at the rear view mirror after slipping the paperwork back into their respective places, the trooper was already gone.

Also gone was my proud clean driving record.

That left me with a $220.00 fine and four points that would stay on my driving record for the next three years, as I later learned. The state is nice enough to set up a website where people can search for their violations and pay online. Naturally my first impulse was to just send in the money and get it over with.

The fine, though hurts, is actually the cheap part. I suspect most accidental offenders like me choose this route and then go on with their lives. But those points, if I learned it correctly, would cost me $150 a pop in insurance premium per year. With four points, that would be $1,800 in three years. On top of that, I might lose about $60 per year in merit discount for five year, which would come to another $300. Added that $220 fine, did the math and I found myself a $2,320 big hole in my wallet for the next few years.

Ouch!

This made me feel sick. So I searched the web for ways to help me get better, starting with typing in “fight speed tickets in New Jersey”. The ever-helpful Google brought me great returns. I was amazed by the volume of services available to me, all of which offered “free consultation” and most “guarantee to eliminate/reduce points or money back.”

Encouraged, I immediately shot off several inquiries. The responses came quickly, from lawyers who claimed to have years of specialized experience in traffic cases. They sounded professional and even personal enough, but would set me back somewhere from $400 to $550 to handle my case. Kind of steep, but those are lawyers; what do you expect?

I paused and thought. If those guys are actually willing to stick out their necks with a money-back guarantee, then a case such as mine must be like a routine ground ball. Why not pull a do-it-yourself and see what happens? Laying out the extra $500 or so for the same result doesn’t make much sense to me.

So I dug some more into the Google results. It became clear that the worst thing to do after getting a traffic ticket is simply sending in the money, which is literally a guilty plea that leaves a door open to let whoever has a hand in the case do whatever they want with your offense, effectively eliminates any possibility of getting a better deal out of a bad situation. This is probably the one of the main reasons why an attorney almost always advise his client to plea not guilty first, even though he had been caught bloody handed killing some one.

Feeling somewhat certain, I phoned the municipal court as instructed by the traffic ticket to inquire about how to proceed. Much to my surprise, Ms. P, the court administrator sounded pleasant and willing to help. She briefly walked me through the procedure, suggested a not-guilty plea, and pointed me to speak to the prosecutor on the court date. She was pretty sure that I could get my points knocked off for $433 in total.

While $433 is a large sum, it looks like a bargain in comparison with the insurance premium increases I’d have to suffer had I pay the fine outright. And I wouldn’t need a lawyer to charge me $500 for this deal. I was going to beat this thing, on my own!

Now I was emboldened. Maybe I could get this case dismissed altogether! I searched some more. Well, the trooper stated on the summons that laser was used when he clocked me doing 83 mph. The weather condition was indeed clear; and there was indeed no car in front of me – No play here.

Perhaps I could challenge the accuracy of the laser equipment and the officer’s competency in operating it, as many online advocates suggested, and I could achieve this by requesting and examining the laser gun’s maintenance log and the manufacturer’s operating menu, as well as the officer’s training record, etc. through some “discovery motion”. But there was no official “discovery request form” existing anywhere. No wonder. Why would the authority give you help to gain an upper hand over them?

So I called the court again, and was told to send in a request letter, which would in turn be faxed over to the state police, who then would send me the material for a fee. But when and for how much? “ No idea.” I got no help here.

Some of the online folks advise against obtaining the discovery for the fear of aggrevating the prosecutors. Besides, the paperwork is required to be in court fifteen days prior to the hearing. Not enough time.
How about the trooper missing the court date so the case getting thrown out? Too much depends on luck.
In the end, I chickened out and settled back on waiting to speaking to the prosecutor.

For the next couple of weeks, my mailbox was flooded with letters from law firms offering to “protect the rights and interests” that I deserve. I’d heard of “ambulance chasers”, but never expected “ ticket chasers”. Who knew!

Finally the court date came in early October. I dressed up a little to make myself more presentable and left home an hour before court time, though the place was only thirty minutes away. I believed that I’d gotten plenty of schooling in the online community, but going in front of a prosecutor and a judge still made me perspire. I had no clear idea what would actually come out of this.

I got there half an hour early, but the hallway was already packed with people waiting for the court to open. Most of them were in really casual street clothes; some were still wearing their uniforms from work; and a couple of them donned peppy tailored suites – attorneys, I assumed.

The clerk at the sign-in window did not need much explanation from me. She found my information neatly listed on a computer printout, acknowledged that I wanted to speak to the prosecutor, then wrote down a number “6” on a tiny piece of paper and handed it to me before telling me to give it to the “the person at the door” when the court opened.

Time was passing in slow motion. The prosecutor come strolling in right before the court time and quickly disappeared into his office. He was a clean-cut middle-aged man who looked like he’d just gotten off the train from Wall Street.

The courtroom opened promptly at 5:30 pm and people slowly filed in. I submitted the paper to “the person at the door” – a young intern, who then instructed me to sit in a front section of the benches near the door. Apparently the fellows sitting around me, about three-dozen strong, had the same plan in mind – bargaining with the prosecutor.

The judge would not appear for another thirty minutes. The prosecutor came in first and announced that he’d call those who requested to speak to him in the alphabetical order, with the priority given to the ones represented by an attorney.

“Man, they are pro-business!” I shook my head. And with a last name that starts with a “w”, I accepted that a long night was in order for me. I opened the magazine that I’d brought with me, and tried to relax for a while.

The judge finally arrived. The Honorable “C” was a heavy-set in his late fifty’s or early sixty’s with gray hair. He spent what felt like fifteen minutes explaining the court rules and procedure; that he did not work for the police or the government but for the people; that he must hear cases represented by attorneys first, such and such, without stopping for a breath, all the while maintaining a poker face. This was business as usual for him.

I could not concentrate on the book anymore, so I might as well do some observation.

This is not a criminal court; so don’t expect any “Law and Order” type of dramas here. Besides various traffic violations, other cases came before the judge that night ranged from leaving the scene of an accident to neighbor harassment. Some of the cases were petty and ridiculous enough to make people laugh, but judge C kept his monotone going most of the time to show that he was all business.

However, the atmosphere suddenly turned tense when an office hauled in a twenty-something in handcuffs. You could hear that the whole courtroom gasped; and a surprise look escaped from judge C’s straight face. It turned out, this young man had missed so many court dates that a bench warrant had been issued for his arrest. And he was nabbed when he tried to pay some traffic fine at another court.

My stomach started growling; whatever snack I ate earlier had long moved down my digestive track. But I could only swallow my own saliva.

It seemed like another hour had past when I was finally called out with several others by the prosecutor. I still had to wait some more, though, because I am a “w”. But at lease I was outside now.

I struck up a conversation with some guy named Ed. He was a “veteran” in this kind of deals now after twenty-seven years of driving, I was told, and was there to “fix a few things” with the prosecutor. He was absolutely sure that I’d be able to get two points off, but not so much about four. When I mentioned that I had read online that some one did just that, he only shrugged and wished me good luck. He added, however, that he didn’t get his insurance premium increased with only two points on his driving record. That was a little comfort for me.

My turn. I wanted to tell the prosecutor that the trooper might have made a mistake, that I wasn’t a reckless driver and I had a clean record to show for it, that I wasn’t a menace to the society, and that I was willing to take responsibility and pay the fine and all the surcharges so please get my ticket reduced to zero point!

The prosecutor didn’t really look up when I walked in the door.

“Sit down here. So you were driving 83 - twenty-eight miles per hour over the limit. This is a four-point ticket, and I’m going to take off two points.”

He started to write down the numbers in a form.

“But sir, I’m here to ask that you take off all four points because…”

“I’m not giving it to you when you’ve gone over eighty miles an hour.”

“But I wasn’t even sure if I did actually drive that fast. Look, I have a clean…”

“Ignorance is not a defense. Tow points, $150 fine, $250 surcharge and $33 court fee for a total of $433. Now go back and wait in the courtroom for the judge!”

It had become cleared that I was just a statistic to him; he was “just doing his job” and not there to listen to me. He seemed to be in a hurry to get every one out the door so he could pack up fast and go home.

Outside, Ed flashed a smirk with an “I told you so!” Well, he was right on with that two-point reduction. Let’s hope he’s correct about the no-premium-increase part, too.

By this time I couldn’t wait to see the judge, but it would be another half an hour before I had my chance.

Though I realized virtually everyone in the courtroom would have to go through this, I still felt like I was the one who got singled out up there in front of the judge. All eye were shooting arrows at me, under the bright lights, with no place to hide. That was not a good feeling. It was humiliation, certainly.

“Were you traveling on the Garden State Parkway north bound near exit 37 on September 7, 2009 at 9:20 am?”

“Yes, your Honor.”

“Were you driving at the speed of sixty-nine miles per hour at that time?” Apparently with the two-point reduction the prosecutor “downgraded” my charge from doing 28 mph to just 14 over the limit.

“Yes, your Honor.”

“Has anyone forced you in any way to enter this guilty plea?”

“Y… No sir!” This time it was me who had to keep a straight face.

“Very well then. You may proceed to the cashier’s window and pay the $433 fine and surcharge. Have a good night.”

I wished I had a better one. But it wasn’t all that bad, either – at least I hit my minimum target. Hey, I am a glass-half-full type of guy.

The faithful Altima steadily crawled back onto the Parkway. Strait ahead, shining brightly was the huge mid-autumn moon. But I wasn’t in the mood for being romantic or poetic. I just wanted to go home.

And of course, the normally half-hour flight home turned into a forty-five-minute journey.