Friday, January 29, 2010

On Google’s Threatened Pull-out from China

Clever Move, Clumsy Cover

Anything about Google is huge; and anything about China is gigantic. So when these two titans butt heads, we’ve got really big news. And controversy is the key word when people describe their relationship. There is no difference this time.

Earlier this month U.S. Internet search leader Google announced a threat that it is going to quit all its operations in China after suffering what it called a “sophisticated cyber attack”. It is hardly hiding its contention that the Chinese government was behind the attack.

Just as expected, and almost seemed pre-rehearsed, a chorus of criticism arose from both sides of the pond. The westerners, from the media in London to the government officials in Washington, came out and firmly stood behind Google.

China, of course, with its history and reputation of restrictions and censorship, is the bad guy in this drama. Google, on the other hand, is the glowing hero, willing to sacrifice its profitable business in the biggest market of the world so our high moral standard and basic human rights can be defended.

The hero beating back the evil, for the matter of principle. It’s a good show.

Funny thing is, despite all the grandstanding, few actually believe the story. And almost everyone knows that this is another one of those shrewd business moves that Google routinely churns out.

Ever since Google entered the Chinese market five years ago, China has been regulating the Internet the some way it supervises other media outlets, “in accordance with the country’s relevant laws.” So, since 2006, Chinese users who search “Tiananmen Square massacre” or “Dalai Lama” would come up empty.

Google knew from the get-go that Beijing was in the business of control and censorship, yet this “human-rights superhero” decided to enter the game anyway. It was telling the world that the mere presence of Google would help open up the communication channels and get information to the Chinese people true and free. Dancing with the wolves for five years, Google ought to look like a noble crusader.

But why is it getting out now? Google has invested billions in China, but with only $600 million annual revenue to show for it. What’s more embarrassing for Google is its sliding market share (down to 14 percent) there. Clearly it has been beat soundly by its Chinese rival, Baidu, which possesses around eighty percent of the market share in China. Other foreign ventures such yahoo and eBay are facing the same fate when competing with domestic rivals. But for the all-mighty Google, which has been coming out on top in pretty much everything it touches, simply admitting defeat and being sent packing is too much of a humiliation. It’s all about face.

However the cover Google uses for its retreat is less than convincing.

For the past few months, the Chinese government has launched a new across-the-board campaign against on-line pornography and violence.

“Ah ha, more censorship!” Google jumps, “we can’t take it any more! We are leaving; just teach those commies a lesson!”

Come on! Google did not make a blip when those Tiananmen Square images were blocked; it readily complied when the Chinese government demanded the information on the dissidents. And it threats to leave because they are cracking down on porn and violence?

Google boasts a motto of “Don't be evil”; fare enough. But what’s evil here? Porn and violence, they are tops in the evil list in the eastern cultures, and therefore should be rightfully censored by the Chinese people in their own country.

If Google truly wants to act as guardian of human rights and freedom of speech, it should not flee now. Instead, it must stay in the trenches and keep fighting. Otherwise, stop using such a flimsy cover for the sake of saving face.

Google knows its business; it is in China for the big money. If it’s eventually leaving, that’s because its business there has not turned out to be as lucrative. This would be a good business move. And blaming censorship? Now that is a clumsy cover.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

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Friday, January 15, 2010

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Let’s Be Honest


Cheating Gets You Nowhere

“Have you ever thought about leaving a legacy and how you will be remembered when the present becomes the past? Does the achievement of our goals for success in life matter more than the manner in which that success is achieved? There’s no question that we all set out to be successful at whatever life has in store, but at what expense? Does it really matter if we might have to be a little dishonest at times or if we have cheated a tiny bit to get ahead?  Would it be different if that’s what it took just to keep up?”

So starts the principal’s editorial in the latest issue of my son’s high school newsletter. There is no “How time flies”, no “Congratulations”, no “Thank you so and so”, or any other routine pleasantry. This is serious, stern scolding.

This came as a shock to me. Ever since the information session, I have been convinced that besides academic excellence, this school also emphasizes on integrity and trust. It even practices “open-locker” policy. Walking through the hallway, you can see that all the lockers are indeed unlocked, and no one seems to worry if his stuff is exposed in plain view. Students who managed to make it to this place are expected to excel, not just “stay in school”. So when the principal speaks like this, something must be up.

It turned out, some students managed to take advantage of the class schedule and cheated in a small quiz, which after it was discovered, prompted the principal to ask: “Is it worth it?”

The question may not be as simple as it seems. In an ideal world, everyone gives his best efforts and gets the results he deserves. You go far because you work hard; you lag behind because you might have slacked off. Everything is fair and square. And honesty is a virtue.

However, the world we live in is not, and never will be perfect. Success is not measured by efforts, but by results. You can still achieve these results with hard work and smarts, plus some luck. Of course, there is no guarantee that your work will pay off. Mix money, fame, social status, and a dash of greed, and you’ve got yourself a recipe for dishonesty – let’s cheat a little, it’s harmless, and it may work out great!

We have seen certain professional athletes, with necks thicker than many people’s thighs, belting baseballs out of the park day after day, and therefore receiving fat contracts, big commercial endorsements, and apparently secure Hall of Fame berths. However, it is no secret that their curiously superb performances have mostly been the result of banned substances.

We have also witnessed the incredible rise of Enron and WorldCom. Until the early 1990’s, they were still little known also-runs stumbling for direction. By using some “smart” tactics to hide losses and inflate earnings, in a matter of a few years they vaulted themselves to the top, and quickly became the Wall Street darlings at the turn of the twenty-first century. The top executives, of course, were perceived as business geniuses and great visionaries, while their pockets swelled with filthy wealth.
 
They had achieved what they considered success by deceit. But is it worth it?

Well, after the most recent doping scandals broke, facts found from various investigations clearly implicated those athletes. Some of the apparent future Hall of Famers were actually forced to testify at congressional hearings, in front of national television. They have become the butt of jokes on late night talk shows, and are being called all sorts of names for a cheater. No matter how hard they try to deny the allegations, whatever records they had previously set will forever carry an asterisk and a footnote next to them. They have disgraced themselves and may even have to face certain health risks down the road.

And we all know the fate of Enron and WorldCom. They became even more famous when it was revealed that the mind-boggling “success” that they had had been sustained mainly by systematic and well-planned accounting fraud. These once high-flying companies have since crashed and landed in bankruptcy, bringing along with them tens of thousands of their employees and investors. As for their top executives, the former head of WorldCom has been sentenced to twenty-five years in prison, while those who had run and ruined
Enron are still on trial, possibly facing a similar fate.

Going back to the high school case, the students cheated just to pass one small quiz. There was no harm done, right? It happens everywhere these days anyway, so what’s the difference whether I cheat or not? The truth is, everyone would agree that character building starts young. You could cheat at home just to get an extra piece of chocolate; you might cheat at school just to pass an exam; and you will probably cheat at work for a promotion. Then what? You see the trend, and you see what’s coming. Honesty is a virtue, and dishonesty carries consequences. Those cheating students have seen their “good” scores erased, and more importantly, they will never be regarded the same way again.

So why cheat? Isn’t it better that we are all just a little more honest? 

By the way, among those who were found cheating in that quiz, some of them had been scheduled to be inducted into the National Honor Society. Well, not any more.

Who’s Afraid of The Big Bad Swine?

Originally Written 5/29/09

Swine don’t have a good reputation. They are called all kinds of names: stupid, dirty, lazy or ugly, etc., depending on the occasion. No body wants to be called a pig. Now they are even accused of spreading a deadly disease, the so-called swine flu – they simply don’t get a break.

Let’s see some of the stuff that we are hearing about this swine flu.

This strain of novel influenza A (H1N1) first broke out in Mexico in April 2009. Some earlier reports had it that there were over 3,000 people ill with the disease and 83 people had died of it. Emergency measures had been announced by the president there.

Across the globe, figures from the World Health Organization (WHO) show that forty-six countries have confirmed 12,950 cases, including 96 deaths, according to the latest tally, and authorities say many more may have been sickened.
 
Eighteen European countries have confirmed 349 cases, a third of whom were probably infected in their home country. The U.K. and Spain have the most reported cases, with 133 each.

Japan has the most cases outside North America. Swine flu has hit the most populous urban area on earth when two schoolgirls in Tokyo tested positive for the disease as Japan's national total reached 345, reports and officials said.

China reported cases recently in Shanghai and the eastern province of Zhejiang, taking its tally of confirmed infections to 12. Taiwan confirmed the island’s first domestically transmitted case and reported two imported infections, giving it nine. South Korea confirmed 12 more cases, bringing its total to 22.

Closer to home, The United States now has over 6,000 probable and confirmed case of swine flu. New York has recently recorded its first death from swine flu - the sixth fatality overall in the US as an assistant school principal passed away a week after becoming ill in mid-May.

The news is definitely not good, and reports by the big media are overwhelmingly negative.

In the face of what they consider clear and apparent danger, the human’s natural defensive mechanism quickly kicks in, as evidenced by the walk-through thermal scans installed at international airports, the needless school closings, and of course, the TV images of those silly surgical masks on thousands of people’s faces.

“Better safe than sorry,” they say.

Fear has even made some people turn hostile against others. In China, a blog posting reporting a swine flu case brought by an overseas student who recently returned home from Canada stirred up nearly three thousand angry replies.

“Everybody is anxious now, what are they running around for?” One lamented, “Isn’t it nice enough out there? Why come back in this dangerous time and put us in danger?!”

“Those spoiled brats,” Another barked, “got nothing better to do but harm their own folks!”

The Vivid memory of past years’ truly deadly global epidemics such as SARS and the “Spanish flu” certainly weight heavily on people’s mind, so I can understand how they tend to get nervous right away when something with such a strange name comes along. As a result, you see canceled flights, schools closed due to a five percent absence rate, and over-crowded hospital emergency departments that have to set up tents outdoors to accommodate anxious patients with the first hint of a flu-like symptom.

The big media is not helping the case with frightening headline news that feeds into the frenzy. What we see when we turn on the news is often a serious looking reporter holding a microphone, standing in front of some supposed infected building and telling us the deadly virus epidemic shows no signs of slowing down, but we don’t have vaccines for the swine flu, and some baby had a fever, turned blue and die in the emergency room...


Little mentioned is that despite the fact that this strain of flu is new to human and thus most people will not have immunity to it, it is relatively mild and treatable even compared to some normal seasonal flues. And we won’t hear that every year, influenza circles the global and kills an estimated 250,000-500,000 people. In an average year, 36,000 of those people live in the United States — a country that spends more on health care than any other country. Compared to this, the number of swine flu cases that we are having now doesn’t seem overwhelming.

Besides, only less than half of reported new swine flu cases are eventually confirmed. Most of the swine flu deaths had underlying health ailments. And that sixteen months old boy that was rushed to the hospital did not die of the swine flu after all. If you were not paying attention, you would have missed this little bit of the news.

Medical terms are Greek to me, and I certainly don’t have adequate knowledge to give advice on this issue.

But I reckon since it is flu, shouldn’t we just treat it like what it is, with common sense?

I happened to come across this from the CDC website about how to take everyday actions to stay healthy, which our mothers probably have been telling us since forever:
  • Cover your nose and mouth with a tissue when you cough or sneeze. Throw the tissue in the trash after you use it.
  • Wash your hands often with soap and water, especially after you cough or sneeze. Alcohol-based hands cleaners are also effective.
  • Avoid touching your eyes, nose or mouth. Germs spread that way.
  • Stay home if you get sick. CDC recommends that you stay home from work or school and limit contact with others to keep from infecting them.
Of course, swine, like other seasonal flues, is nothing to sneeze at. It is not going away and still spreading around the world. With the summer travel season approaching fast, we surely will not stop hearing about this big bad swine any time soon.

The good news is that progress has been made towards developing a viable H1N1 swine flu vaccine, with experts at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention saying the week leading to the Memorial weekend that they have two promising candidate viruses for use in such a shot.

This swine may turn out to be big, and certainly bad, but do we really want to live a sorry fearful life in the name of being “safe”? Apparently many people don’t think so, as airlines are flying out of Mexico again; more schools are reopened; and friends are still shaking hands. Perhaps we can all sing:

“Who’s afraid of the big bad swine?”


Something about Friendship

Friendship Is Special

How do you describe friendship? It’s not easy, is it? They say the Eskimos have a hundred words for snow. I am sure we have quite a variety of words in English, or Chinese, for friendship, too, but we are usually stuck with just a few, like good friends, trusted friends, best friends, or intimate friends, etc.
           
Friends are special people. They don’t have to be the same, and a few similarities or a little bit of common interest are good enough to make a couple of fast friends. They are not worried about being judged. They feel good when they meet. They argue, they fight, but in the end, they are there for each other when it counts.

It sounds a lot like family, and it’s justifiably so – don’t you often have the feeling of family when you are amongst your good friends? On the other hand, it’s sad but true: in many cases, you can’t even consider some of your family members your friends! That’s probably why some people talk to their friends about things that they would otherwise keep secret from their own families. And that’s definitely why a true friendship will last a lifetime – consider this: less than half of American marriages can last that long!
          
I recently came across some interesting writing about friendship on the Internet (www.friendship.com.au) that I would like to share with you:             
             
The Beauties of Friendship by Samuel Francis Wooland.
"A Friend" - The first person who comes in when the whole world has gone out.
A bank or credit on which we can draw supplies of confidence, counsel, sympathy, help and love.
One who combines for you alike the pleasures and benefits of society and solitude.
A jewel whose luster the strong acids of poverty and misfortune cannot dim.
One who multiplies joys, divides grieves, and whose honesty is inviolable.
One who loves the truth and you, and will tell the truth in spite of you.
The triple alliance of the three great powers, Love, Sympathy, and Help.
A watch which beats true for all time, and never "runs down."
A permanent fortification when one's affairs are in a state of siege.
One who to himself is true, and therefore must be so to you.
A balancing pole to him who walks across the tight rope of life.
The link in life's long chain that bears the greatest strain.
A harbor of refuge from the stormy waves of adversity.
One who considers my need before my deserving.
The jewel that shines brightest in the darkness.
A stimulant to the nobler side of our nature.
A star of hope in the clouds of adversity.
A diamond in the ring of acquaintance.
A volume of sympathy bond in cloth.
Friendship-one soul in two bodies.
An insurance against misanthropy.
One truer to me than I am myself.
One who understands our silence.
A link of gold in the chain of life.
The essence of pure devotion.
The sunshine of calamity.
A second right hand.
          
Friendship is beautiful, and I can’t say it any better. That “One more friend means one more way”, as the Chinese people would tell you, couldn’t be more true.

Now, let’s all go make some friends.

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Merrier Deaths in 2010?


They Are Tax Free, at Least!

No body is happy when a loved one dies. This is human nature. A loss of life always brings sadness and sorrow. What makes deaths more unbearable in this nation is that it’s going be taxed, heavily for some by our dear Uncle Sam. I am talking about the federal “estate tax” here. You not only lose a loved one, but also may be forced to watch a chunk of your rightful assets being taken away lawfully. This dreadfully nicknamed “death tax” is downright awful.

But things are not all bad lately. The federal estate tax expired January 1, 2010, after Congress failed in 2009 to agree on how large a deceased person’s estate must be taxed, and at what rate. This means for the first time since the late 1800’s, U.S. citizens will be able to live without having to pay for someone’s death when they are lucky enough to inherit a sizable estate from the deceased.

The repeal of the estate tax was originally announced back in 2001 as part of a broader reform, which lowered the top tax rate on estates over $1.5 millions to 45% from 55% and increased the exemption from a paltry $675,000 to a high of $3.5millions in 2009.

We already had almost a decade worth of good run in this aspect. Of course, the U.S. government will ultimately act to reinstate the estate tax, in light of the current economical and financial downturn, as well as astronomical budget deficits.

In fact, this process was already under way late last year when the U.S. House of Representatives approved a bill that would have permanently extended the $3.5 millions exemption and kept the top rate at 45%. But the bill failed to win support in the U.S. Senate as many senators from both parties favored increasing the exemption to $5 millions.
 
The result of this disagreement between the House and the Senate is that, at least for now, there is no U.S. estate tax for deaths in 2010. Since U.S. estate tax returns are not due until nine months following the date of death, the U.S. government essentially has until the end of September to reinstate the tax before the first returns become due.

This free lunch will not last, however. In 2011, the “death tax” is set to come roaring back at full force, with a top rate of 55% and an exemption of only $1 million, if our hard-working congress cannot agree on something better by then. So, this one-year absence of any estate tax, followed by a likely restoration of a huge one, may provoke some interesting thoughts.

The fortunes of the super-rich are secure, shielded from the Uncle Sam by armies of tax lawyers and accounts. However, the middle class, especially those who have done the right things all along: work, prudence and savings, etc. will be punished once again when this year is over. So undeniably this death tax-free 2010 seems like a godsend to many.

But is this a tax break to die for?

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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Life Is Sweet, If You Let It Be

In this world, who doesn’t like a little bit of sweets? To get a smile out of a crying child, nothing beats a piece of candy; to celebrate a birthday, you can’t be without a cake; and you would just feel like a nice sweet desert after a good meal…

But life is nothing like going to a restaurant, where you can order your favorite dishes anytime. Any elements of life, good or bad, always seem to pay you a visit at the most unexpected and inconvenient moment.

Remember why you decided to move to New Jersey? The six thousand square feet Mac Mansion, the tree-lined neighborhood, the crime rate, plus the top-notched schools – oh, how sweet it is!

Then comes the next Monday morning. You have to climb out of bed in the freezing cold, and in the pre-dawn darkness stumble your way to the Holland Tunnel when you hear on the radio that there is a sixty-minute delay… “Why am I doing this?!” You want to pull your hair out.

You finally make your way to the office, brew a nice cup of tea, settle down and try to make up for lost time when an announcement pops up from your e-mail: “John Smith has been promoted as the director of the department.” Who’s this John? A mediocre guy who does nothing all day, and a kisser-upper who takes credit for other people’s work. And he’s got what he didn’t earn! On the other hand, you always keep your head down, put all your honest efforts into your work, but never get your boss’s recognition and colleagues’ appreciation…

Wearing an awkward fake smile, you congratulate John, and you know your day is ruined. But you must collect yourself, and stay there until it’s the “appropriate” time to leave. Right now, you are just plain bitter.

The bitter taste is still in your mouth when you pull into your driveway. You grumble about how unfair God is. Just then, your front door swings open, and your babbling baby wobbles toward you, followed by your beloved wife with the most beautiful smile… Right then and there, what bitterness, do you still remember?

During your lifetime, there are too many events that rob you of your happiness and bring you pain and misery. In your childhood, you’d complained that your parents were too tough on you. Going to school, you just couldn’t stand the fact that this skinny little girl sitting next to you always beat you on tests. Now that you’ve got your dream job, but that curly-hair guy has a bigger office… Even in your “home sweet home”, can you really expect a honeymoon everyday?

Since no one can actually control or predict what’s happening in life, why not just open your heart and embrace it? As a matter of fact, the one who can make you unhappy is most likely yourself. Thus in order to start enjoying life, you’ve got to begin with yourself. Your parents were strict? They just wanted you to be successful. Failed to be the top dog at school? That’s just the motivation for you to try harder. The other guy’s grass is greener? Try to remember what you have accomplished… Inevitably you have fights with your wife, but what had brought you together as a couple was fate, and that’s what you should truly treasure.

Life is full of good times as well as hardships, which may not be a bad thing. Only after having experienced all those elements can you taste how sweet happiness is. And it’s those elements that make life so rich and vivid.


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So, I Got Busted

Falling into A Speed Trap and Fighting A Traffic Ticket


“Dad, I don’t think I should drive;” my eldest son, Bryant, handed the car key back to me, “my neck’s killing me – I’ve probably slept on it the wrong way.”

It was early Labor Day morning. Bryant, a senior at NYU Stern, had come home the day before to pick up a few items that he left behind when he moved back in his dorm for the new school year. Always a loving mom, my wife kindly volunteered my service to give him a ride instead of letting him take the bus.

No problem. With a trace of chill in the air, the fall season had gotten off a beautiful start: the sky was so clear that it didn’t even look it was there; and the still-rising sun brushed everything on Earth with a touch of gold. That’s what I call great driving weather!

Sailing through Route 9, we reached the Parkway in half of the usual time. There were few souls on the road. No body would go to work on Labor Days; and many were probably still recovering from their hangovers, anyway. I wouldn’t be on the road this early had my very sociable son not decided to meet a few friends of his for lunch in the city.

Nothing was happening. The Altima was effortlessly gliding on the roadway, pleasantly humming and occasionally passing a few “slow” cars from the left lane. It was just too comfortable. Pretty soon Bryant started snoring in the passenger seat. Obviously he didn’t sleep enough the night before.

My mind started to wander. “This is quick, and I’m going to be there in no time. The Labor Day is young. Hmm, maybe I should go to Chinatown to pick up something delicious to bring home for lunch… That’s it!”
I got a little excited with this idea and my right foot just got a bit infusion of life. The car gladly complied and woke up from its sleepy hum. Perhaps I hung in the left lane a tad too long, but still nothing was happening.
Until a police car sitting on the center divider jumped into sight.

“What, I’m here already?” Like many New Jersey commuters, I am aware of this stretch of the Parkway where the speed limit drops abruptly from 65 to 55 and therefore creates an infamous speed trap for countless innocent motorist who simply drive fast.

But I was still caught off guard as my mind had been wandering. Then practiced instinct kicked in, and I took my foot off the pedal, signaled, eased into the next lane on the right, and followed the traffic as the car rolled past the state trooper.

The police car didn’t move. Good sign! Now it was in the rear view mirror, and it came out! No flashing lights? Maybe the guy’s just going somewhere else. Keep going! Oh, no, he just cut right behind me. Still no flashing lights. Stay calm! He’s probably just going to the next exit.

Then those lights on the roof of the cop car started spinning. “So, I got busted!” I resigned and reluctantly steered the car toward the right shoulder, found a nice patch of grass and stopped, hoping for a just a simple scolding and warning, given my clean driving record.

“What happened?” Bryant was oblivious as he was rubbing off the sand in his eyes. Some knocks on his window caused him to jump.

A square-faced young trooper towered over the passenger side. “License, registration and insurance!” The fellow was not a talkative type; he grabbed my papers and quickly stepped back to his squad car. Obviously, he really enjoys his authority. “Your were going 83 in the 55 mile-per-hour zone.” These words he left behind chilled the air further.

I totally did not agree with him, but I absolutely understood that I must not exit the vehicle in this situation. So I had no way to argue, to attempt to bring his attention to my clean record, or simply ask for leniency before he put anything down on paper. Like meat on the chopping block, I could only sit there and wait, with my son, to whom I was supposed to be the role model.

After what felt like two years, the trooper strutted back, again to the passenger side window and handed back what I had just surrendered, plus that dreaded piece of cardboard paper. “There is information on the back for you to pay online or call the court to resolve the summons.” Now he talked.

Well, there was nothing I could do now. When I looked up at the rear view mirror after slipping the paperwork back into their respective places, the trooper was already gone.

Also gone was my proud clean driving record.

That left me with a $220.00 fine and four points that would stay on my driving record for the next three years, as I later learned. The state is nice enough to set up a website where people can search for their violations and pay online. Naturally my first impulse was to just send in the money and get it over with.

The fine, though hurts, is actually the cheap part. I suspect most accidental offenders like me choose this route and then go on with their lives. But those points, if I learned it correctly, would cost me $150 a pop in insurance premium per year. With four points, that would be $1,800 in three years. On top of that, I might lose about $60 per year in merit discount for five year, which would come to another $300. Added that $220 fine, did the math and I found myself a $2,320 big hole in my wallet for the next few years.

Ouch!

This made me feel sick. So I searched the web for ways to help me get better, starting with typing in “fight speed tickets in New Jersey”. The ever-helpful Google brought me great returns. I was amazed by the volume of services available to me, all of which offered “free consultation” and most “guarantee to eliminate/reduce points or money back.”

Encouraged, I immediately shot off several inquiries. The responses came quickly, from lawyers who claimed to have years of specialized experience in traffic cases. They sounded professional and even personal enough, but would set me back somewhere from $400 to $550 to handle my case. Kind of steep, but those are lawyers; what do you expect?

I paused and thought. If those guys are actually willing to stick out their necks with a money-back guarantee, then a case such as mine must be like a routine ground ball. Why not pull a do-it-yourself and see what happens? Laying out the extra $500 or so for the same result doesn’t make much sense to me.

So I dug some more into the Google results. It became clear that the worst thing to do after getting a traffic ticket is simply sending in the money, which is literally a guilty plea that leaves a door open to let whoever has a hand in the case do whatever they want with your offense, effectively eliminates any possibility of getting a better deal out of a bad situation. This is probably the one of the main reasons why an attorney almost always advise his client to plea not guilty first, even though he had been caught bloody handed killing some one.

Feeling somewhat certain, I phoned the municipal court as instructed by the traffic ticket to inquire about how to proceed. Much to my surprise, Ms. P, the court administrator sounded pleasant and willing to help. She briefly walked me through the procedure, suggested a not-guilty plea, and pointed me to speak to the prosecutor on the court date. She was pretty sure that I could get my points knocked off for $433 in total.

While $433 is a large sum, it looks like a bargain in comparison with the insurance premium increases I’d have to suffer had I pay the fine outright. And I wouldn’t need a lawyer to charge me $500 for this deal. I was going to beat this thing, on my own!

Now I was emboldened. Maybe I could get this case dismissed altogether! I searched some more. Well, the trooper stated on the summons that laser was used when he clocked me doing 83 mph. The weather condition was indeed clear; and there was indeed no car in front of me – No play here.

Perhaps I could challenge the accuracy of the laser equipment and the officer’s competency in operating it, as many online advocates suggested, and I could achieve this by requesting and examining the laser gun’s maintenance log and the manufacturer’s operating menu, as well as the officer’s training record, etc. through some “discovery motion”. But there was no official “discovery request form” existing anywhere. No wonder. Why would the authority give you help to gain an upper hand over them?

So I called the court again, and was told to send in a request letter, which would in turn be faxed over to the state police, who then would send me the material for a fee. But when and for how much? “ No idea.” I got no help here.

Some of the online folks advise against obtaining the discovery for the fear of aggrevating the prosecutors. Besides, the paperwork is required to be in court fifteen days prior to the hearing. Not enough time.
How about the trooper missing the court date so the case getting thrown out? Too much depends on luck.
In the end, I chickened out and settled back on waiting to speaking to the prosecutor.

For the next couple of weeks, my mailbox was flooded with letters from law firms offering to “protect the rights and interests” that I deserve. I’d heard of “ambulance chasers”, but never expected “ ticket chasers”. Who knew!

Finally the court date came in early October. I dressed up a little to make myself more presentable and left home an hour before court time, though the place was only thirty minutes away. I believed that I’d gotten plenty of schooling in the online community, but going in front of a prosecutor and a judge still made me perspire. I had no clear idea what would actually come out of this.

I got there half an hour early, but the hallway was already packed with people waiting for the court to open. Most of them were in really casual street clothes; some were still wearing their uniforms from work; and a couple of them donned peppy tailored suites – attorneys, I assumed.

The clerk at the sign-in window did not need much explanation from me. She found my information neatly listed on a computer printout, acknowledged that I wanted to speak to the prosecutor, then wrote down a number “6” on a tiny piece of paper and handed it to me before telling me to give it to the “the person at the door” when the court opened.

Time was passing in slow motion. The prosecutor come strolling in right before the court time and quickly disappeared into his office. He was a clean-cut middle-aged man who looked like he’d just gotten off the train from Wall Street.

The courtroom opened promptly at 5:30 pm and people slowly filed in. I submitted the paper to “the person at the door” – a young intern, who then instructed me to sit in a front section of the benches near the door. Apparently the fellows sitting around me, about three-dozen strong, had the same plan in mind – bargaining with the prosecutor.

The judge would not appear for another thirty minutes. The prosecutor came in first and announced that he’d call those who requested to speak to him in the alphabetical order, with the priority given to the ones represented by an attorney.

“Man, they are pro-business!” I shook my head. And with a last name that starts with a “w”, I accepted that a long night was in order for me. I opened the magazine that I’d brought with me, and tried to relax for a while.

The judge finally arrived. The Honorable “C” was a heavy-set in his late fifty’s or early sixty’s with gray hair. He spent what felt like fifteen minutes explaining the court rules and procedure; that he did not work for the police or the government but for the people; that he must hear cases represented by attorneys first, such and such, without stopping for a breath, all the while maintaining a poker face. This was business as usual for him.

I could not concentrate on the book anymore, so I might as well do some observation.

This is not a criminal court; so don’t expect any “Law and Order” type of dramas here. Besides various traffic violations, other cases came before the judge that night ranged from leaving the scene of an accident to neighbor harassment. Some of the cases were petty and ridiculous enough to make people laugh, but judge C kept his monotone going most of the time to show that he was all business.

However, the atmosphere suddenly turned tense when an office hauled in a twenty-something in handcuffs. You could hear that the whole courtroom gasped; and a surprise look escaped from judge C’s straight face. It turned out, this young man had missed so many court dates that a bench warrant had been issued for his arrest. And he was nabbed when he tried to pay some traffic fine at another court.

My stomach started growling; whatever snack I ate earlier had long moved down my digestive track. But I could only swallow my own saliva.

It seemed like another hour had past when I was finally called out with several others by the prosecutor. I still had to wait some more, though, because I am a “w”. But at lease I was outside now.

I struck up a conversation with some guy named Ed. He was a “veteran” in this kind of deals now after twenty-seven years of driving, I was told, and was there to “fix a few things” with the prosecutor. He was absolutely sure that I’d be able to get two points off, but not so much about four. When I mentioned that I had read online that some one did just that, he only shrugged and wished me good luck. He added, however, that he didn’t get his insurance premium increased with only two points on his driving record. That was a little comfort for me.

My turn. I wanted to tell the prosecutor that the trooper might have made a mistake, that I wasn’t a reckless driver and I had a clean record to show for it, that I wasn’t a menace to the society, and that I was willing to take responsibility and pay the fine and all the surcharges so please get my ticket reduced to zero point!

The prosecutor didn’t really look up when I walked in the door.

“Sit down here. So you were driving 83 - twenty-eight miles per hour over the limit. This is a four-point ticket, and I’m going to take off two points.”

He started to write down the numbers in a form.

“But sir, I’m here to ask that you take off all four points because…”

“I’m not giving it to you when you’ve gone over eighty miles an hour.”

“But I wasn’t even sure if I did actually drive that fast. Look, I have a clean…”

“Ignorance is not a defense. Tow points, $150 fine, $250 surcharge and $33 court fee for a total of $433. Now go back and wait in the courtroom for the judge!”

It had become cleared that I was just a statistic to him; he was “just doing his job” and not there to listen to me. He seemed to be in a hurry to get every one out the door so he could pack up fast and go home.

Outside, Ed flashed a smirk with an “I told you so!” Well, he was right on with that two-point reduction. Let’s hope he’s correct about the no-premium-increase part, too.

By this time I couldn’t wait to see the judge, but it would be another half an hour before I had my chance.

Though I realized virtually everyone in the courtroom would have to go through this, I still felt like I was the one who got singled out up there in front of the judge. All eye were shooting arrows at me, under the bright lights, with no place to hide. That was not a good feeling. It was humiliation, certainly.

“Were you traveling on the Garden State Parkway north bound near exit 37 on September 7, 2009 at 9:20 am?”

“Yes, your Honor.”

“Were you driving at the speed of sixty-nine miles per hour at that time?” Apparently with the two-point reduction the prosecutor “downgraded” my charge from doing 28 mph to just 14 over the limit.

“Yes, your Honor.”

“Has anyone forced you in any way to enter this guilty plea?”

“Y… No sir!” This time it was me who had to keep a straight face.

“Very well then. You may proceed to the cashier’s window and pay the $433 fine and surcharge. Have a good night.”

I wished I had a better one. But it wasn’t all that bad, either – at least I hit my minimum target. Hey, I am a glass-half-full type of guy.

The faithful Altima steadily crawled back onto the Parkway. Strait ahead, shining brightly was the huge mid-autumn moon. But I wasn’t in the mood for being romantic or poetic. I just wanted to go home.

And of course, the normally half-hour flight home turned into a forty-five-minute journey.

Grandpa Al’s Turkey - A Great Recipe For The Big Bird


A Big Turkey Like No Other


My father-in-law, Albert used to wait tables at a Chinese restaurant up in Harlem, New York when he was young. He was such a nice character even the chefs there liked him. This is unusual, because cooks always deem themselves superior over the waiters and scold them whenever there is a chance. But Albert was different. With his smarts, energy, charm and English skill (a big deal amongst blue-collar Chinese workers), he actually won the respect of those once snobby chefs. So every Thanksgiving and Christmas, much to the delight of my wife and her siblings, Albert was able to bring home a very tasty turkey complimentary of that Chinese restaurant.

As you know, turkey itself is not very tasty; and its breast meat may be tough to some if you don’t cook it right. Perhaps that’s why people make stuffing and other condiments to make the feast more enjoyable. Grandpa Al’s turkey is different. The chefs mixed several kinds of unique Chinese goodies as marinade to make this bird like no others out there.

Albert had since retired, but the tasty Chinese flavored turkey never stopped being served. Grandpa Al was now the chef. The marinade sauce was the same or perhaps improved, and the cooking and serving methods remained somewhat unchanged – he would place the bird on a rack in a large roasting pan with a small amount of water on the bottom; roast it at 350oF for four to five hours; baste the turkey with the juice that has dripped down into the pan; make gravy with the juice; and dip the meat in the gravy before serving, etc.

The family was growing when I joined them years later. Perhaps because I had shown enough interest and a certain amount of talent in cooking, Albert decided that it was time to pass the torch and showed me all the stuff.

For a couple of years, I tried some different variations, such as using a variety of herbs instead, but quickly got vetoed. The family loved Grandpa Al’s turkey – no contest!

By now, this family had grown to around fifteen hungry mouths and counting; a big bird no less than 20 pounds was always necessary to feed them. The sheer size of the turkey posed a challenge for me trying to keep the white meat tender and juicy. Using the normal roasting technique would expose the big bird to high and dry heat for hours, risking drying up or even burning the breast while leaving the inside of the thighs uncooked.

After some research, I figured out a different approach. I love vegetables and wouldn’t consider a meal complete without some. So veggies were what I wanted to put in the mix. I lined the bottom of my very large roasting pan with the most common items: onions, celery, potatoes, carrots, etc., plus some dried Chinese black mushrooms for extra flavor. Then I laid the 20-plus pound turkey – covered with Grandpa Al’s marinade, inside and out, top and bottom – directly on the bed of veggies. Finally I sealed the whole pan tightly with heavy-duty aluminum foil before leaving it in the refrigerator overnight ahead of the big day.

This method yielded an unexpectedly pleasant result: it cut the cooking time almost in half! Concerned that the heat might need an extra push to penetrate the aluminum foil, I initially set the oven temperature to 450o and lowered it to 400o after half an hour. Two hours later, I was surprised to see that the internal temperature of the bird, as indicated by the inserted meat thermometer, had almost reached the recommended level of 180o F. So I unwrapped the pan, lowered the oven temperature back to 350o and basted the turkey with the very rich gravy from the bottom of the pan for the next 30 minutes until the big bird was done.

That was an instant success. The turkey looked good, and it was all cooked.

“This is actually pretty good!” declared one brother-in-law, who had never been a fan of turkey.

“So tasty! How do you do that?” inquired another brother-in-law, an Italian fellow who has tasted many a turkey in his day.

And a guest who came for Thanksgiving begged for a doggie bag...

Of course, it had to get approved by the master. “It’s so moist and tender” was the judgment. The torch was officially passed.

Every now and then I asked: “How do you guys want the turkey this time?”

“Just make it exactly the same.”

Grandpa Al’s turkey is that good.

Now, in case you are interested, I am writing the recipe down so you can try it for yourself. You may need to visit an Asian grocery store for some the ingredients.

 

Grandpa Al’s Turkey

Guaranteed to Be Juicy and Tasty

The Bird
A large turkey, 20 pounds and up preferred
If frozen, make sure to thaw in refrigerator 4 – 5 days prior to marinating

The Marinade
Hoisin (or Hoy Hsin) Sauce 1 jar (appr. 15 oz)
Ground Bean (or Black Bean) Sauce 1 jar (appr. 13 oz)
Fermented Bean Curd 1 jar (appr. 12 oz)
Ginger Root (fresh) 10 oz
Garlic (fresh) 2 large bulbs
Scallion (fresh) 2 bunches
Chop and mix all ingredients in food processor, remove to large bowl and set aside.

The Veggie Bed
Carrots 4 medium
Celery 8 outside stalks
Onions 2 large
Potatoes 4 medium
Chinese Black Mushroom 1 handful
Thoroughly clean and cut all veggies into desired bite size, mix and set aside.

The Roasting Pan
16”L x 14”W x 4”H or larger, non-stick preferred.

The Preparation
  • Line bottom of roasting pan with veggie mix;
  • Thoroughly rinse turkey, remove excess fat, pat dry with paper towels and place on veggie bed;
  • With hands, rub marinade onto turkey, back side first, then cavity and breast side. Try to get as much marinade under skin as possible. Make sure entire turkey is covered with sauce. Allow turkey to partially submerge in veggie bed but not touch pan;
  • With heavy-duty aluminum foil, tightly cover turkey and roasting pan;
  • Insert meat thermometer into inside of thigh, toward center of turkey;
  • Leave turkey in refrigerator overnight.

The Roasting
  • Preheat oven to 400oF, place roasting pan in oven and set timer to 21/2 hours;
  • Check thermometer during last half hour as cooking speed may vary;
  • Remove turkey from oven when it reaches 170oF, carefully remove aluminum foil and replace turkey in oven;
  • Lower oven temperature to 350oF, periodically basting turkey with gravy from veggie bed for next half hour or until thermometer reading reaches 180oF.

The Carving
  • Use sharp knife;
  • Remove wing and drumstick sections first;
  • From side, cut into breast meat horizontally along thigh level;
  • From top, cut down vertically along breast bone. Both breasts will come off easily.
The Serving
  • Place each whole breast on serving plate and thinly slice meat against grain. Keep slices in form;
  • Lace cut meat with gravy yielded from veggie bed and serve;
  • Garner vegetables from veggie bed and serve as side dish;
  • Cut dark meat off legs and thighs, etc. and serve as desired.
There you have it, Grandpa Al’s turkey! Remember that this is home cooking, and I always advocate flexibility in home-cooked meals. Nothing has to be exact, that is. So use your imagination, use alternatives wherever you see fit, and more importantly, surprise yourself and your guests!

Enjoy!

It's All Worth It

When Times Are Tough, Hang In There

Bryant got his first paycheck from the Chinese School today! Bryant is my oldest son, and after eleven years of study as a Cantonese student, this year he finally became a teacher’s assistant, and today is his “pay” day. On the drive home, listening to my wife joke with Bryant about which restaurant we were going to spend the few dollars on, I couldn’t help smiling to myself and let out a long sigh: “Well, we made it!”

It all started in 1994, when we had move to Jersey from New York for two or three years and yet still knew little about the community. Somehow my wife got information that there was this Monmouth Chinese School in the area. Without giving much thought about it, we sent Bryant on a long, long eleven-year journey.

On the first day of school, we had no idea what to expect. Our four-year-old Bryant, who had never had any school experience, stood there with his younger cousin, looking like frightened kittens, teary eyes and all. Then in came Mrs. Sheila Ma, their very first teacher. She definitely looked like she knew her business, and pretty soon her warm and motherly demeanor calmed everyone down and took control of the class. By 12:00 noon, the new CK1A class re-emerged from their classroom with something to proudly show off – they had learned their first Chinese characters: one, two, three, people, big, small… Well, the kids were on their way!

Mrs. Ma ended up staying with the class for four years. The students loved her; the parents petitioned the school for her to stay; and she requested to stay as well. She was of a rare type of teachers who are truly caring, nurturing and dedicated. The close bond that she developed with the class was above and beyond any typical teacher-student relationships. To this date, her former students and their parents would still fondly talk about her, and miss her. I had heard rumor saying that she had been accused of acting like a “baby sitter”, but hey, if such a “baby sitter” can make kids comfortable and willing to come to classes, shouldn’t we have more of them?

Even if you have the best teacher in the world, the students still have to do their work. Like most American-born Chinese children, English was Bryant’s first language, and my wife and I made sure that he was proficient at that. And Chinese being a language of completely different kind, stood as a great challenge for Bryant, no matter how willing and hard-working a learner he could be. As he grew up, the list of homework assignment from his regular schools was getting longer, while the level of his Chinese learning kept going higher. When countless hours of hard work did not yield a favorable result, and when the fierce competition and pressure become overwhelming, you could see evidence of frustration and exhaustion all over the poor kid.

At this point, it would have been so easy to say, “Forget it, son! Let’s fold this and enjoy life a little bit.” But that would have been too easy, and we would have missed something important for us. Instead, we told Bryant, “Just hang in there, and you won’t regret it!”

So hang in there he did, and the result is nothing regrettable: the perennial trophies that have filled his bookshelves, the Chinese New Year performances, martial arts, lion dance, those would-be live long friends that he otherwise would not have met… He’s just got to feel good about himself. Oh, those little conversations that he managed to utter with his grandma and cousins when we traveled back to China this past summer - priceless!

And hang in there we did as well, for the support of our son. Which successful student does not have at least a parent behind him? We all understand that we just cannot expect our children to learn a language on their own when they cannot even go to school once a week on average. So when Bryant was sweating over his Chinese homework on those late nights, I was pretty darn sure that some kind of ulcer was developing in my stomach! And those speech contests… Who doesn’t know they actually are the ultimate writing/translation competitions for the parents, or who ever the parents can grab hold of?

But hard work aside, the Chinese school itself is a pretty good place for the parents to hang out and find something interesting to do, if you are not in a hurry to drop off you kids and run off shopping. You can actually get to know your fellow Chinese parents and develop some kind of friendship that is beneficial. I remember a few years back when my wife was pregnant with our second child, several moms from Bryant’s class, together with Mrs. Ma, threw her a baby shower. We were truly surprised and touched, and the warm memory will surely last.

I myself have been a life-long sports fan. One day shortly after Bryant started school here, I just happened to wander into the school gym, which had a beautiful hardwood floor and standard glass basketball backboards. A dozen or so parents were already playing there. “Wow, nice!” I knew then and there that I had found a little paradise where I could shake off the rust that had been built up in my body since college and pretend to be young again. After eleven years’ worth of shoves and hugs, along with a good amount of twisted ankles and jammed fingers, many of us became friends, while this team earned a regional championship for the school at last year’s New Jersey Chinese School Basketball Tournament.

Looking back, I can hardly believe that I have been coming to this school for eleven years. And guess what? My other two children are enrolled, too. The fact that my little daughter has just started her C1 class means I may have to keep coming here for another ten years! But I just feel that it is the right thing to do, and I would not hesitate to do it all over again, even though I know I have to work just as hard as the children. We are living in this environment where English is the main stream, and trying to make our children truly proficient in Chinese seems like fighting a battle that we will never win. But we have our culture, and it is in our blood, it is us. The Chinese dances, the Chinese painting, the Kung Fu, the lion dance, the Chinese yo-yo, or even just the sight of a large crowd of Chinese people, are special to me. Our children definitely need to soak in our rich culture, and don’t we as parents need to get recharged every once in a while?

Every Saturday morning on our way to the Chinese School, we pass by the Marlboro Municipal Complex,
where the little leaguers are practicing soccer. My younger boy would gripe to me: “If only I could sign up…” And I would answer to him: “Just hang in there, and you won’t regret it.”

Every now and then, feeling the burden of extra work, my little girl would whine to her mom: “I don’t like Chinese school!” And she would answer to her: “Just hang in there, and you won’t regret it.”

Yes, just hang in there, and we won’t regret it. This is an assurance that we offer to our children, but isn’t it one that we can give to ourselves, too?


 

堅持
 


英偉收到了中文學校發的第一張支票!英偉是我的大兒子,在當了十一年的粵語班學生之後,今年他終于成爲了一名助教,而今天是他支“薪水”的日子。開車回家的 路上,聽著身旁的妻子和後座的英偉說笑地商量著到哪家餐館把那幾塊錢吃了,我不禁笑了起來,然後長長地舒了一口氣:「我們終于熬過來了!」


記得那是一九九四年,我們從紐約搬來新澤西州有兩三年了吧,卻對當地的社區環境了解不多。也不知太太從那裏得來的資料,說是附近有一所叫孟華的中文學校。於是,我們不加思索,把英偉送入了漫長的十一年中文寒窗。


開學的第一天,我們對學校的情況還一無所知。英偉當時未滿五歲,從沒有上過學。他和他的表弟站在那裏,活像兩隻受驚的小貓兒,淚珠在眼眶里打轉。就在這時 候,他們的首任老師黃葉清走了過來。她顯然是老手,以母親般的慈祥及溫和的態度,很快地令各人安定下來,好好地上課了。到中午十二時,那嶄新的粵幼一甲班 從課室出來了,自豪地向久候了的父母們展示著他們剛學到的第一批中文字:一 、二、三、人、大、小…… 啊,小家伙們開始上軌道了!


黃老師總共跟了這個班四年。學生們喜愛她,家長們請求學校讓她留任,而她本人也要求繼續。她對教學盡心盡力,對學生們更是呵護備至。作爲一個義務教師,她與 同學們建立起的,卻遠遠超過了普通的師生關係。時至今日,每當學生和家長談起黃老師,心中總有深深的懷念。曾經聽過傳言,說有人指責她像在開“托兒所”, 寵著孩子們。試問,如果這家“托兒所”能夠使孩子們感到舒服,並且願意來上學,我們多開幾家又何妨?


就算有了最好的老師,功課還是要學生們自己去做的。像多數美國出生的華裔一樣,英語是英偉的第一語言。我和太太都要求他必須首先精通英語。而中文與英文有天 壤之別,無論他多麽的好學,又怎樣的努力,要學好它始終都是一個難度極大的挑戰。隨著英偉的長大,他來自常規學校的功課越來越多,同時他的中文課的程度也 越來越深。當長時間的努力而得不到理想的成績,當激烈的競爭帶來難忍的壓力,無奈和失望在那仍然年幼卻已精疲力盡的身上顯露無遺。


到了這個時候,人們很容易會說:“算了吧!別幹了,享受一下人生吧。”然後躺倒不幹。但我覺得那太兒戲了,我們會失去本身重要的一部分的。相反地,我們鄭重告誡英偉:“堅持一下吧,你不會後悔的!”


如是者他堅持了下來,取得的成績絕不令人後悔:每年奪得的獎盃堆滿了書架;農曆新年晚會的表演深受歡迎;武術、舞獅,還有那些新、老朋友都是他這些年來堅持的碩果。他確實可以為他自己感到自豪。噢,今年夏天回鄉時他與祖母及表親之間那些雖勉強但還能溝通的對話 - 真是無價!


作爲家長,支持著英偉,我和太太也堅持了下來。哪個成功的學生背後沒有起碼一個家長?我們都明白,中文學校不能每週末都上一次課,要孩子們獨立地學好一門語 言是不現實的。他們需要我們家長的幫助。所以,在那些深夜里,當英偉為那些中文家課絞盡腦汁,我在他身旁也在嘔心瀝血!還有那些演講比賽 - 誰人不知其實都是家長之間的寫作/翻譯比賽呢?


然而苦幹之餘,如果你不急著要把孩子扔下好讓自己去購物,中文學校本身是一個可供家長們聚會或幹些有趣事的好地方。我們確實可以進行互相了解,甚至進一步發 展成為良好的摯友關係。記得當年太太還懷著我們的第二個孩子,英偉班里幾位要好的家長,聮同黃葉清老師,悄悄地為她準備了一個送禮會。當時我們感到十分的 意外和感動,而那種溫暖的感覺永存記憶中。


本人向來愛好運動。英偉開學後不久的一天,我無意中逛進了學校的體育館,裏面有漂亮的硬木地板和標準的籃板。十來個家長已經在那裏打著籃球。“嘩,太好 了!”我在心里歡呼,知道自己找到了一個小樂園,可以活動一下已經生銹的筋骨,企望盡量留住逝去的青春。隨著十一年的推搡踫撞,連帶著不勝數的傷筋動骨, 籃球的對手變成了好友,而去年我們這支籃球隊更爲學校贏回了新州中文學校中區冠軍的榮銜。


回望過去,真難相信已經往返這所中文學校十一年了。我和孟華的緣份還遠遠未到盡頭,因爲我的另外兩個小孩也已經在這裡就讀了。我的小兒 剛剛升上一年級,這意味著我們還要再熬過起碼十一年光景!但我始終認爲這是應做的事,就算是重頭再來,我也會毫不猶豫,儘管我知道自己要付出的努力將於孩 子們無異。生活在美國這個社會里,英語當然是主流。我明白要令我們後代的中文水平像英語般精通就如打一場贏不了的仗。然而我們有我們自己的文化,它就在我 們的血液里,它體現著我們自己。那些中國傳統舞蹈,那些國畫,那中國功夫,那醒獅,那扯鈴,甚至只是一大群的華人,對我來說都是那樣的特別。我們的子孫們 固然需要沐浴在中華民族豐富的文化中,我們成人本身不是也應該時常自我補充一下嗎?


每逢星期六上學途經萬寶路城區中心,看見那裏有衆多的小球員在練習足球,我的二兒子會對我抱怨:“如果我不用上中文學校……”這時候我會回答他說:“堅持一下吧,你不會後悔的。”


時常地,當感覺到額外功課的負擔,我的小女孩會對她的母親發牢騷:“我不喜歡中文學校!”這時候太太會告誡她說:“堅持一下吧,你不會後悔的。”



是的,堅持一下吧,我們都不會後悔的。這是我們給與孩子們的保證;但同時,這不也正是我們給與自己的保證麽?

Friday, January 8, 2010

Easy Resolutions for 2010

Anyone Can Do This

The new year has started; I am still struggling with the idea of 2010. Right, 2009 stunk for a majority of us. As usual, people all over the world have made their own new year resolutions: lose weight, quit smoking, make more money, or marry a long time girlfriend, etc. But honestly, how many of them can follow through?

Call it lowered expectation; I have received via email from a college friend a list of things that should have/could have been done long long ago. I would not necessarily call them resolutions, but being able to stick to even a very few of them will surely make your life better in this uncertain new year.

Here we go, the Easy Resolutions for 2010:

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s – Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2009.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7-8 hours each day.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily and while you walk -- smile.

Personality:
11. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t over do. Keep you limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree…

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you fell, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:
40. Please share this to everyone you care about, I just did it...

A Cold Sore Treatment That Is Tried And True

VitaminB-12 Saves the Day

It was a winter night a couple of years ago. My wife was on the other end of the phone line, and sounded distressed, “Dad, what type of vitamins do we take? I think I’m having a cold sore!” She was all the way across the continent in Las Vegas, and set to give an important presentation at a large conference the next day. A cluster of shiny big, red blisters on a corner of the mouth was the last thing she would want.

We both are vulnerable to cold sores. Often times, excessive stress would bring upon a breakout. And her day job is usually rather stressful. For me, it’s the cold weather. In the winter, if I fail to apply enough lip balm before leaving the house, an itchy and red rash will likely pop up somewhere around the lips within hours.

Those who have ever suffered from cold sores would tell you how nasty they could get. First it will just itch a little with some redness; blisters will soon develop and cause pain. After the blisters appear, the cold sores will break open, ooze a clear fluid. This will last several very long days. Then the blisters will crust over and thankfully disappear. Unfortunately for me, this whole ordeal would always last two weeks; and the cold sores are very painful, not to mention that those very unsightly but eye-catching blisters are downright embarrassing when you have to meet people all the time.

Since cold sores are caused by virus, there is no real cure; all you can do is to find something to lessen the pain and discomfort. I had tried skin creams, ointments, or whatever I can get my hands on, including vitamin B complex, all without meaningful effects.

Eventually, I spotted a product at a local chain supermarket that looked promising. It’s called “Releeve” and “only sold in Pathmark”. This product, boldly labeled “1 Day Cold Sore Symptom Treatment”, is essentially a 0.13% benzalkonium chloride solution, a brownish liquid that you apply 3 – 4 times throughout the day. It was quite pricey, at almost $20.00 for this little 6 ml (0.20 oz) bottle at the time I bought it. But I was desperate, and willing to give anything reasonable a try. Well, it worked, somewhat, and soothed the itchy and painful symptoms, though not “in just a day” as “guaranteed”.

We were happy with the Releeve, and had been using it since.

But my wife did not bring it with her. She was all alone at her Vegas hotel. It was up to her to find some kind of B vitamins late at night in some unfamiliar territory. I wished her good luck but did not hold out much hope in finding anything miraculous for her new cold sore.

I was expecting to see some nightmarish red blisters somewhere on my wife’s lips when her car pulled up the driveway two days later. But there she was, walking in the door, lovely as ever. Nowhere to be seen was that expected unsightly cold sore; and I would have missed the little discoloring on her lower right lip if she did not point it out to me.

“What did you do?” I marveled.

It turned out, there was a miracle. My wife actually found something, and the only thing that was B vitamin related, at her hotel’s gift shop. It was B12 lozenge (1000 mcg) made by Thompson. This 30-count bottle set her back almost $7.00. But hey, that was Vegas, what do you expect? It worked; and most importantly, it saved the day!

In a delicious way. This B12 lozenge has “natural cheery flavor plus folic acid” and taste like candy. You put it under you tongue once a day at the onset of a cold sore and wait for a speedy recovery.

My wife and I use it in conjunction with Releeve, soothing the itch and pain while letting the B12 lozenges work the magic. This combo treatment works like a one-two punch. If you are able to catch the virus at its very onset, this combo will nip the cold sore in the bud, and the result will resemble that of my wife’s – like nothing really happened. Of course you cannot be that lucky most of the time, either because you are not paying attention or are away from home. In this case, this combo can still at least cut your healing time in half.

I recently recovered from a flu (not sure if it was H1N1) and nasty blisters started to breakout on a Monday. Now I was not too concerned any more since I had my cold sore busters! I did what I had to do: slip a B12 lozenge under the tongue and rub on the Releev three to four times a day. Sure enough, I looked normal again within five days, just in time for my Saturday basketball games. That saved me from the friendly ridicules from my buddies.

Thirty lozenges wouldn’t last long. Soon we had to look for a new supply. Unfortunately, this Thomson brand is not available at any of our local stores; whatever resembling it was unreasonably pricey. So I got on-line to shop. A quick googling brought me to iHerb.com. This twelve-year old site has Better Business Bureau (BBB) credential, no complaints shown from my research and offered me the best prices: I could get the same 30-count bottle of Thompson B12 lozenges for only $1.64 instead of the nearly $7.00 at that Vegas hotel gift shop! Making the deal sweeter, iHerb.com gave me a $5.00 discount as a first time buyer; so I paid next to nothing for my initial order!

And B12 lozenge is not the only product they provide great prices on. In fact, iHerb offers literally over 16,000 vitamins, dietary supplements and other health products.

So give it a try if you are in need of any of these products. Use referral code: BUN027, and you too, can enjoy the $5.00 discount for your very first order. (Disclaimer: I will earn a commission equivalent to 4% of the purchase price each time when the referral code BUN027 is used.)

Well, the surest way to defeat cold sores is to prevent one from happening in the first place. For me, I would cover my lips with globs of Chapstick in the cold weather. You can never be careful enough, however, and cold sores do find their way to show up. But when that happens, I know I have a weapon - a powerful combo – to help bust those nasty blisters.

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